"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Usually I just counter-C&F her. But as our relationship goes further, I got tired of her act. I'm thinking of telling her, please stop the C&F. Any advice?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't TELL her. That's just whining about your own insecurity, because that's why you can't handle it properly in the first place. If she's trying to act like you should put her on a pedestal, show her she's only getting in her own way by doing that. You (should) have other options. In other words: spin plates.
 
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i would just negative reinforce it, like...

"mmm baby you're fiesty ****y attitude is totally turning me on... Lets try anal sex again!!!!... C'mon I will race you to the bedroom" tag her and run away "you're it!!"

:)

lol, honestly though you could just be cool about it and tone her down... Whenever she is being a ****y little *****, just be like "aww babe you can act nice and be YOURSELF whenever you're alone with me... Don't worry I won't tell your friends, You can still act like a badass around them"... she will get the hint.
 
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Thats why I don't date girls who do that in the first place. It starts to get on my nerves after a while. I would tell her to knock it off or I would just dump her.
 
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I kinda like girls that act fiesty, or think they are tuff. its some much more fun to tame em wit my stroke. =) I say loosen up a little.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Fela Kuti said:
Usually I just counter-C&F her. But as our relationship goes further, I got tired of her act. I'm thinking of telling her, please stop the C&F. Any advice?
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What exactly is she doing/saying?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
What exactly is she doing/saying?
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i'm paraphrasing here:

"you're lucky to have me"
"i don't love you that much anyway"
"my inbox is filled with your messages. i think i'm getting sick of it."

all were said in a joking tone though. but still..
 
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Fela Kuti said:
i'm paraphrasing here:
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"you're lucky to have me"
Francisco: "Perhaps, but you've always been luckier than me." ;)

"i don't love you that much anyway"
Francisco: "I know... You worship me, there's a difference y'know.."

"my inbox is filled with your messages. i think i'm getting sick of it."
Francisco: "Those aren't technically my messages, I submitted your email addy to the 'Amputee Midget Love' forum.

Don't take what she says personally, it's just playful flirting; play along. :up:
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
play along. :up:
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I tink da wittow baby got his feewings hurted. He don't wanna pway no more, its time for war!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Fela Kuti said:
i'm paraphrasing here:

"you're lucky to have me"
"i don't love you that much anyway"
"my inbox is filled with your messages. i think i'm getting sick of it."

all were said in a joking tone though. but still..
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kick her in the man nuts....:trouble:

maybe you just can't handle this girl???

Try fvcking her younger sister... that always works for me. :woo: :cheer: :rockon:
 
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My new gf does that and I think it's cute. I like ****y women, its fun to argue with them.
 
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navyseal2101 said:
My new gf does that and I think it's cute. I like ****y women, its fun to argue with them.
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yeah, at first it was fun. but now, i don't know. well maybe i'm getting insecure now. haha.
 
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anyway, isn't the c&f better be toned down (if not eliminated) when you're in a LTR?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fela Kuti said:
anyway, isn't the c&f better be toned down (if not eliminated) when you're in a LTR?
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Just depends on what you like in a girl. In your case, it seems you don't like it, so try the things that have been provided in this thread and see if you get results you like.
 
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Just depends on what you like in a girl. In your case, it seems you don't like it, so try the things that have been provided in this thread and see if you get results you like.
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The thing is if c/f is a part of her nature (she was that way before they started dating) it may be a bit difficult if he wants her to change. Now, if he agrees to work on his insecurities if she agrees to tone down the c/f.... :cool:
 
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