"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What are your best pointers and tips for dating Latina Americans?

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Anyone here happens to be a Latina connoisseur? As you know I happen to live in South Texas as my winter home in America each year and Hispanics happens to be the majority out here. Do you guys have some great pointers and tips for dating Latina Americans and getting involve in their culture?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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They generally put out (and put out kids) when they are young and turn into Catholic nuns when they're older. The libido starts out strong and then the guilt takes over (more so than white girls who are more consistent).

So get em while they're young.
 

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They generally put out (and put out kids) when they are young and turn into Catholic nuns when they're older. The libido starts out strong and then the guilt takes over (more so than white girls who are more consistent).

So get em while they're young.
They're definitely Catholic vibe, there family oriented, yes I agree with the learning spanish part.....also get acquianted with their cuisine. Tamales, burritos, barbacoa, quesadillas, etc...know how to eat a good botana cheerfully at a family function.
 

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They're definitely Catholic vibe, there family oriented, yes I agree with the learning spanish part.....also get acquianted with their cuisine. Tamales, burritos, barbacoa, quesadillas, etc...know how to eat a good botana cheerfully at a family function.
Let's be rational about this. Do you really think this will give them the tingles?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Let's be rational about this. Do you really think this will give them the tingles?
aren't you Latino yourself? You should realize by now that food is the way to the soul when it comes to certain culture. Nothing like being a smooth mofo and knowing what to do when you get served a certain dish and knowing how to prepare the condiments and ingredients and gather them all up together etc. These types of things not only build rapport, not just with her but with her family and friends. Im thinking in terms of relationships here long term wise.
 

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aren't you Latino yourself? You should realize by now that food is the way to the soul when it comes to certain culture. Nothing like being a smooth mofo and knowing what to do when you get served a certain dish and knowing how to prepare the condiments and ingredients and gather them all up together etc. These types of things not only build rapport, not just with her but with her family and friends. Im thinking in terms of relationships here long term wise.
Building rapport with her family has nothing to do with creating sexual attraction. Don't confuse being culturally accepted with being sexually desired.

Maybe accept that you don't understand how attraction works before giving advice on how to build it. You might learn a thing or two.
 

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Building rapport with her family has nothing to do with creating sexual attraction. Don't confuse being culturally accepted with being sexually desired.

Maybe accept that you don't understand how attraction works before giving advice on how to build it. You might learn a thing or two.
Listen I admit I'm no Casanova, but I do get plenty of dates while in South East Asia and I know thing or two about being a gentleman. One when it comes to attraction, it boils down to not needing her approval, just a laid back calm presence, natural and having good social skills and figuring out the logistics of the date, If you got those things covered, you should be good to go, though I admit, my main weakness that I don't land a second date sometimes is because I'm not 'sexual' enough and don't kino her often as I should, because I'm rather conservative in that department and made a few platonic girlfriends in the long run, it's still a learning process for me and I've already had a few marriage talks with some of the long term prospects that I'm dating in South East Asia long term wise, like I said I'm just spinning my plates, the Christian way, while I'm out there and while I'm here in the states, might as well flirt with a few latinas at a few pubs, coffee shops, bookstores and all the venues I used to go to while I was here.
 

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Listen I admit I'm no Casanova, but I do get plenty of dates while in South East Asia and I know thing or two about being a gentleman. One when it comes to attraction, it boils down to not needing her approval, just a laid back calm presence, natural and having good social skills and figuring out the logistics of the date, If you got those things covered, you should be good to go, though I admit, my main weakness that I don't land a second date sometimes is because I'm not 'sexual' enough and don't kino her often as I should, because I'm rather conservative in that department and made a few platonic girlfriends in the long run, it's still a learning process for me and I've already had a few marriage talks with some of the long term prospects that I'm dating in South East Asia long term wise, like I said I'm just spinning my plates, the Christian way, while I'm out there and while I'm here in the states, might as well flirt with a few latinas at a few pubs, coffee shops, bookstores and all the venues I used to go to while I was here.
Getting dates in Southeast Asia as an American is hardly comparable. Being from the States is already an advantage in those markets. You have novelty and perceived status working in your favour before you even open your mouth.

And for the umpteenth time, you’re using the word “plate” incorrectly. If you’re not sleeping with these women, you’re not spinning plates. You’re collecting female friends and entertaining marriage fantasies. More importantly, you’re not going to build the kind of life you’re envisioning with a woman unless she’s sexually attracted to you. Being a gentleman, having good social skills, and getting along with her family are not substitutes for sexual attraction. You admitted yourself that you struggle with sexual escalation and often end up in platonic relationships. That’s the issue you should be addressing instead of all this jumbo mumbo about being a gentleman and building rapport with her family.

You can be a gentleman, pursue marriage, and wait until sex until marriage. But none of that changes the fact that you first need to make a woman desire you. You’re putting the cart before the horse.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Getting dates in Southeast Asia as an American is hardly comparable. Being from the States is already an advantage in those markets. You have novelty and perceived status working in your favour before you even open your mouth.

And for the umpteenth time, you’re using the word “plate” incorrectly. If you’re not sleeping with these women, you’re not spinning plates. You’re collecting female friends and entertaining marriage fantasies. More importantly, you’re not going to build the kind of life you’re envisioning with a woman unless she’s sexually attracted to you. Being a gentleman, having good social skills, and getting along with her family are not substitutes for sexual attraction. You admitted yourself that you struggle with sexual escalation and often end up in platonic relationships. That’s the issue you should be addressing instead of all this jumbo mumbo about being a gentleman and building rapport with her family.

You can be a gentleman, pursue marriage, and wait until sex until marriage. But none of that changes the fact that you first need to make a woman desire you. You’re putting the cart before the horse.
I notice when it comes to attraction, you can be the biggest dork in the world and if the girl happens to like you, she'll make it easier for you and be more understanding. You're right that attraction isn't a choice, well guess what? You can't attract all the girls you come across, you can only improve your batting percentage when you step up to the plate. As far as plates are concerned a Man is only as good as his options. I'm a dude who likes to have options in my life, not just with women, so I guess we'll call it as that - 'options'. Options and being able to be the selectee is a great thing to have and something this site preaches right? I'm doing it with my Tinder and Social circle. Personally I still refer to my options as Plates even though I'm doing it the Christian way. I'm not here to bash your way of life, But I've found my calling in God consciousness and walk that path. I also practice Semen retention and yoga in my everyday life and even when it comes to sex, I shall practice semen retention and sexual tantric/yogic union with my wife. A man should be able to control his ejaculation in the bedroom whenever he pleases and use that to bring a sense of enlightenment and have good masculine essence.
 

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Listen I admit I'm no Casanova, but I do get plenty of dates while in South East Asia and I know thing or two about being a gentleman. One when it comes to attraction, it boils down to not needing her approval, just a laid back calm presence, natural and having good social skills and figuring out the logistics of the date, If you got those things covered, you should be good to go, though I admit, my main weakness that I don't land a second date sometimes is because I'm not 'sexual' enough and don't kino her often as I should, because I'm rather conservative in that department and made a few platonic girlfriends in the long run, it's still a learning process for me and I've already had a few marriage talks with some of the long term prospects that I'm dating in South East Asia long term wise, like I said I'm just spinning my plates, the Christian way, while I'm out there and while I'm here in the states, might as well flirt with a few latinas at a few pubs, coffee shops, bookstores and all the venues I used to go to while I was here.
Being a gentlemen is all well and fine. But not at the expense of being sexual and turning them on.
 

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I notice when it comes to attraction, you can be the biggest dork in the world and if the girl happens to like you, she'll make it easier for you and be more understanding. You're right that attraction isn't a choice, well guess what? You can't attract all the girls you come across, you can only improve your batting percentage when you step up to the plate. As far as plates are concerned a Man is only as good as his options. I'm a dude who likes to have options in my life, not just with women, so I guess we'll call it as that - 'options'. Options and being able to be the selectee is a great thing to have and something this site preaches right? I'm doing it with my Tinder and Social circle. Personally I still refer to my options as Plates even though I'm doing it the Christian way. I'm not here to bash your way of life, But I've found my calling in God consciousness and walk that path. I also practice Semen retention and yoga in my everyday life and even when it comes to sex, I shall practice semen retention and sexual tantric/yogic union with my wife. A man should be able to control his ejaculation in the bedroom whenever he pleases and use that to bring a sense of enlightenment and have good masculine essence.
I have no idea what you’re talking about.

Using the wrong terminology only reinforces your stubbornness and unwillingness to acknowledge that your approach might be flawed. You seem more interested in justifying it than recognizing what’s wrong. Call them whatever you want, but having options and spinning plates are two different things.

But suit yourself. After all, it is your life. Enjoy the lack of success.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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