Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
They're definitely Catholic vibe, there family oriented, yes I agree with the learning spanish part.....also get acquianted with their cuisine. Tamales, burritos, barbacoa, quesadillas, etc...know how to eat a good botana cheerfully at a family function.
Let's be rational about this. Do you really think this will give them the tingles?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
aren't you Latino yourself? You should realize by now that food is the way to the soul when it comes to certain culture. Nothing like being a smooth mofo and knowing what to do when you get served a certain dish and knowing how to prepare the condiments and ingredients and gather them all up together etc. These types of things not only build rapport, not just with her but with her family and friends. Im thinking in terms of relationships here long term wise.
Building rapport with her family has nothing to do with creating sexual attraction. Don't confuse being culturally accepted with being sexually desired.
Listen I admit I'm no Casanova, but I do get plenty of dates while in South East Asia and I know thing or two about being a gentleman. One when it comes to attraction, it boils down to not needing her approval, just a laid back calm presence, natural and having good social skills and figuring out the logistics of the date, If you got those things covered, you should be good to go, though I admit, my main weakness that I don't land a second date sometimes is because I'm not 'sexual' enough and don't kino her often as I should, because I'm rather conservative in that department and made a few platonic girlfriends in the long run, it's still a learning process for me and I've already had a few marriage talks with some of the long term prospects that I'm dating in South East Asia long term wise, like I said I'm just spinning my plates, the Christian way, while I'm out there and while I'm here in the states, might as well flirt with a few latinas at a few pubs, coffee shops, bookstores and all the venues I used to go to while I was here.
