You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I guess I didn't realize we were only taking about serious LTRs here.
And paraplegics can play basketball.
Women HB8+ have no development in personal skills. They’ve spent their whole lives coasting on beauty. Combine that with 99% of men trying to get with her for the rest of your life. That is recipe for at best a miserable relationship. Find a chick that’s merely “cute,” physically fit, and can dress. She will look almost as good and have twice the character.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It's an interesting heuristic that works for low-tier and trashy women, but there are hb8+ that aren't like this. The ones I know are from wealthier families with very good relationships with their parents.
Relationship with parents doesn’t protect HB8+ from the privileges that come with their beauty. I don’t know why guys think HB8+ can be reformed or that they will ever be as submissive or cooperative as less attractive women. That goes against female hypergamy. If you’re Chris Hemsworth or Michael B. Jordan knock yourself out with the baddies. The rest of y’all are deluding yourselves.
I fully endorse this notion.
| Deal Breakers |
| Cigarette smoker |
| Drug use (even Recreational) |
| Psychiatric history or medication including Eating disorders |
| Prior arrests or convictions |
| Alcohol abuse requiring treatment |
| Evidence of lying to me |
| Withholding of Sex as a punishment |
| Animal Rights or Extreme environmentalist |
| Debts in collections-Poor credit |
| Extreme mood swings |
| Desire for breast implants (pre existing is ok) |
| Unable to get along with my children and family |
| Seeks confrontations |
| Chronic pain |
| Wants to have (more) children or has children under 10 yo. |
| Married twice or more |
| Overweight by more than 20 pounds |
| Under 5 feet tall. Over 6’ 2” |
| High maintenance in appearance (plastic surgery) |
| History of Obesity |
| Must Haves |
| A frequent desire and willingness for sex |
| A positive attitude |
| A career direction and demonstrated ability to keep a job. |
| Athletic hobbies |
| A sense of adventure |
| Enjoys camping and outdoors |
| A social circle of her own as well and be willing to be in my social circle |
| Able to socialize with friends and strangers alike |
| Enjoy fine dining |
| Likes to dance |
| Likes animals but not crazy |
| Enjoys travel and the act of travelling |
| Physically affectionate |
| Encouraging and optimistic |
| Romantic |
| Can connect with children and my family |
| Intelligent and values learning |
| Cares about her appearance |
| Cares about her health |
I really did, but it came easily. When you are unsatisfied in a relationship you can pretty clearly define what you want and don't want.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I do have a woman who ticks EVERY ONE of those boxes...
Read it more carefully. They don’t “focus” on beauty; they go through life awarded privileges because they are beautiful. I’ve corresponded with a fair number of HB8+. I’m man enough to admit I am never on their “high interest” radar. I only want women who view me as the prize. Her interest level in you is the hallmark of success in the relationship. Yes, I’d much rather be the king to an HB6 than an option to an HB8+.
On the contrary. I don’t need the hottest girl in the room for validation.
That is just 100% false. The prettier the girl, the more options she has. An HB8+ will not be as submissive as less attractive women because she doesn’t have to be. She’s only going to submit to Chris Hemsworth or Michael B. Jordan caliber of men. That is her high interest prototype. Women truly of that level of beauty get bombarded with hundreds of male options. You have to be rich, tall, fit, and connected to earn their submission. Then you have to be able to afford to maintain the relationship with the girl. I pass on that because it is a bad deal. I advocate more men do the same.
My experience simply doesn't reflect what you're saying. But what you're saying isn't wrong. It's just not a steady-fast rule that applies to all.
Each one of those deal breakers is a boundary and you have to feel abundant enough to respect your own boundaries. I didn't for 20 years.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Very hot women are a nightmare for Ltrs since it's much more likely that she'll be tempted to cheat on you
The hotter the girl, the more options she has. That’s more Chads and Tyrones trying to rip off your girl.
So basically your "logic" is coming from your own (irrationality) insecurity.
if she is a woman with values, principles and strong boundaries this won't matter.
Who? If her interest is high enough in you and she is well principled........
It's a global pandemic. 6+ lulz plain Jane cute but YOUNGISH! 18-23 preferably. Must be under 30. No accidentally on purpose preggers for me.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
