"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I would just get a power rack (with a pull up bar), an adjustable bench, a barbell and 200-350lbs in plates
 

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It'll work out at at least double the cost. That weight set and bench is looking at the maximum budget I'll be able to go to for the forseeable future.
 

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Moneytalks said:
It'll work out at at least double the cost. That weight set and bench is looking at the maximum budget I'll be able to go to for the forseeable future.
suit yourself.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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In the long run, better to save for a few months and afford the better stuff.

Can you make it to the gym once a week? You can still maintain/get stronger while you save up.

You could of course buy that and save for the power rack seperately.


Your call.
 

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Moneytalks said:
It'll work out at at least double the cost. That weight set and bench is looking at the maximum budget I'll be able to go to for the forseeable future.
How do you figure? (its actually cheaper if your smart about it) Whats your goal? I assume its to build muscle.
 

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Cheaper? The power racks are about the same as that bench and weight set.

Of course, it's also a space thing. I only have my bedroom space to put it in. I can't make it to the gym once a week after the middle of June, which is why I need a weight set. The other problem is that I'm awaiting authorisation from a Naval surgeon to proceed with my selection-it's not serious, I'll pass. Procedure is an arse- so once I'm in 90% of my stuff is going into storage or onto eBay.

I basically want to maintain the muscle I have, and add some more if I can do it without hindering my running skills.
 

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a power rack and bench don't take up any more space than the monstrosity you linked to, with its useless preacher's curl and nearly useless leg extension device.

the power rack w/ pull up bar becomes the immobile piece, while a light adjustable bench can be put exactly where you need it--and if you're short on space, you can turn it sideways in the rack when not in use, thus actually taking up less space.

your space objection is only remotely valid if you have a short ceiling.

so let's put this out in the open. you're perfectly willing to spend $400 for something that WON'T do the job, but unwilling to save up a bit to spend $600-700 on doing it right?

http://www.muscletalk.co.uk/article-home-gym.aspx

and these estimates don't include finding one or more pieces used through classifieds, etc.

Two minutes of searching craiglist and I found someone selling everything listed in the link above (including dip attachment) for $250, 15 minutes away from where I live. too bad my landlord wouldn't appreciate a power rack on the parquet floors.....
 

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That article above is gold, I'm giving it serious consideration when I relocate for work soon. Thanks for the link
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yeah, ditch the all-in-one and get a power rack.

Also, look at ebay. People are always getting rid of benches and weights on there.
 

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So the bench is sh!t, that's all I was looking for :rolleyes:

On the side of a low ceiling, I have a sloping ceiling. In the area that the power rack would have to go, I can't get a wardrobe at 6' to sit flush against the wall.

I'll search around a bit more.

From the article:

A 7x10 foot space would be ideal.
I have about a 6x5 to store things in, and then when i want to use it, my bedroom will be filled right out with it.
 

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I think I may start a homegym in my garage after looking at that article. I constantly find myself skipping workouts due to traveling to the gym, etc. The gym in my hometown isn't open past 8pm either so this would be great if I come back from a trip at 10PM and would like to get a workout in.
 

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Good times. My new boss said I can choose most of my hours to accommodate my training. I have longer to save for training gear.
 

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wheres the barbell?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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