"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I would just get a power rack (with a pull up bar), an adjustable bench, a barbell and 200-350lbs in plates
 

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It'll work out at at least double the cost. That weight set and bench is looking at the maximum budget I'll be able to go to for the forseeable future.
 

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Moneytalks said:
It'll work out at at least double the cost. That weight set and bench is looking at the maximum budget I'll be able to go to for the forseeable future.
suit yourself.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In the long run, better to save for a few months and afford the better stuff.

Can you make it to the gym once a week? You can still maintain/get stronger while you save up.

You could of course buy that and save for the power rack seperately.


Your call.
 

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Moneytalks said:
It'll work out at at least double the cost. That weight set and bench is looking at the maximum budget I'll be able to go to for the forseeable future.
How do you figure? (its actually cheaper if your smart about it) Whats your goal? I assume its to build muscle.
 

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Cheaper? The power racks are about the same as that bench and weight set.

Of course, it's also a space thing. I only have my bedroom space to put it in. I can't make it to the gym once a week after the middle of June, which is why I need a weight set. The other problem is that I'm awaiting authorisation from a Naval surgeon to proceed with my selection-it's not serious, I'll pass. Procedure is an arse- so once I'm in 90% of my stuff is going into storage or onto eBay.

I basically want to maintain the muscle I have, and add some more if I can do it without hindering my running skills.
 

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a power rack and bench don't take up any more space than the monstrosity you linked to, with its useless preacher's curl and nearly useless leg extension device.

the power rack w/ pull up bar becomes the immobile piece, while a light adjustable bench can be put exactly where you need it--and if you're short on space, you can turn it sideways in the rack when not in use, thus actually taking up less space.

your space objection is only remotely valid if you have a short ceiling.

so let's put this out in the open. you're perfectly willing to spend $400 for something that WON'T do the job, but unwilling to save up a bit to spend $600-700 on doing it right?

http://www.muscletalk.co.uk/article-home-gym.aspx

and these estimates don't include finding one or more pieces used through classifieds, etc.

Two minutes of searching craiglist and I found someone selling everything listed in the link above (including dip attachment) for $250, 15 minutes away from where I live. too bad my landlord wouldn't appreciate a power rack on the parquet floors.....
 

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That article above is gold, I'm giving it serious consideration when I relocate for work soon. Thanks for the link
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yeah, ditch the all-in-one and get a power rack.

Also, look at ebay. People are always getting rid of benches and weights on there.
 

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So the bench is sh!t, that's all I was looking for :rolleyes:

On the side of a low ceiling, I have a sloping ceiling. In the area that the power rack would have to go, I can't get a wardrobe at 6' to sit flush against the wall.

I'll search around a bit more.

From the article:

A 7x10 foot space would be ideal.
I have about a 6x5 to store things in, and then when i want to use it, my bedroom will be filled right out with it.
 

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I think I may start a homegym in my garage after looking at that article. I constantly find myself skipping workouts due to traveling to the gym, etc. The gym in my hometown isn't open past 8pm either so this would be great if I come back from a trip at 10PM and would like to get a workout in.
 

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Good times. My new boss said I can choose most of my hours to accommodate my training. I have longer to save for training gear.
 

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wheres the barbell?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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