"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have printed this series out and it has helped alot

BUT

Do you have any advic for staying motivated?

Most of the time I dont approach not because I am scared, but because I am lazy and couldnt be bothered. I felt like you touched on this in "boosting mind states" but could you elaborate on this a little more?

I guess what I really need is a swift kick in the ass...
 
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Nice post Señor Fingers! It can stand along with the DJ bible. Good examples and detailed field reports. Very cool!

You are hereby Knighted a Real DJ.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I suggest reading it twice or more. When I was reading this for a second time i noticed how much I missed at the first time. There are lots of details worth to remember :D
 
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Okay bump
 
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A bump for a friend :)

Originally posted by Paradox
Nice post Señor Fingers! It can stand along with the DJ bible. Good examples and detailed field reports. Very cool!

You are hereby Knighted a Real DJ.
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Glad you enjoyed it bro.

I still stand by much of this guide but I wish I could change some parts that I currently disagree with. If there is any lesson here it is that a DJ is always a work in progress!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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We all know that there is NOT 1 thread in any forum touching this

(i got this from mASF)

...unbeliebavle, i love the C+F explanations........
 
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Senor... I read WMS when I took up the DJ ways again and it was just really interresting to read it. I didn't pay much attention (i.e learn) much of your strategies but it was interresting to see who you were and your views on life. That and the absolute hilarity of some of your stories. I would like to congratulate you on a great post. Captivating you could say... What I like most is even the least experienced AFC to the gread Don Juan de Cassanova could enjoy this. A post of universal significance! Good job.
 
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God Bless America!

Thanks for all of your time in writing this. One of the best I have ever read in 2 years. Pure brilillance.!
 
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All of the following links in Fingers' 2nd post lead to a redirect page. I just joined and would love to read them. Are they located anywhere else?

Thanks.

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Destroying Social Phobias - Awaken your social self.
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Originally posted by Tatari
All of the following links in Fingers' 2nd post lead to a redirect page. I just joined and would love to read them. Are they located anywhere else?

Thanks.

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The site shifted servers and messed up links. I'm gonna go through and fix them now.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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Bump.

Geez, that was third time I read this entire thing.... but not my last.

Thanks for all your effort, Señor Fingers.
 
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This was the first sosuave post i ever read, that started me down the road. Mad props to fingers, and if you havent read it...do it now! The breathing from the diaphagram still puzzles me, i havent been able to do it.
 
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This thread is just amazing. I've read through it twice, and im going to read it again.

Nice.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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