"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Weapons Of Mass Seduction

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have printed this series out and it has helped alot

BUT

Do you have any advic for staying motivated?

Most of the time I dont approach not because I am scared, but because I am lazy and couldnt be bothered. I felt like you touched on this in "boosting mind states" but could you elaborate on this a little more?

I guess what I really need is a swift kick in the ass...
 
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Nice post Señor Fingers! It can stand along with the DJ bible. Good examples and detailed field reports. Very cool!

You are hereby Knighted a Real DJ.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I suggest reading it twice or more. When I was reading this for a second time i noticed how much I missed at the first time. There are lots of details worth to remember :D
 
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Okay bump
 
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A bump for a friend :)

Originally posted by Paradox
Nice post Señor Fingers! It can stand along with the DJ bible. Good examples and detailed field reports. Very cool!

You are hereby Knighted a Real DJ.
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Glad you enjoyed it bro.

I still stand by much of this guide but I wish I could change some parts that I currently disagree with. If there is any lesson here it is that a DJ is always a work in progress!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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We all know that there is NOT 1 thread in any forum touching this

(i got this from mASF)

...unbeliebavle, i love the C+F explanations........
 
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Senor... I read WMS when I took up the DJ ways again and it was just really interresting to read it. I didn't pay much attention (i.e learn) much of your strategies but it was interresting to see who you were and your views on life. That and the absolute hilarity of some of your stories. I would like to congratulate you on a great post. Captivating you could say... What I like most is even the least experienced AFC to the gread Don Juan de Cassanova could enjoy this. A post of universal significance! Good job.
 
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God Bless America!

Thanks for all of your time in writing this. One of the best I have ever read in 2 years. Pure brilillance.!
 
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All of the following links in Fingers' 2nd post lead to a redirect page. I just joined and would love to read them. Are they located anywhere else?

Thanks.

Example.

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Destroying Social Phobias - Awaken your social self.
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Originally posted by Tatari
All of the following links in Fingers' 2nd post lead to a redirect page. I just joined and would love to read them. Are they located anywhere else?

Thanks.

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The site shifted servers and messed up links. I'm gonna go through and fix them now.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bump.

Geez, that was third time I read this entire thing.... but not my last.

Thanks for all your effort, Señor Fingers.
 
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This was the first sosuave post i ever read, that started me down the road. Mad props to fingers, and if you havent read it...do it now! The breathing from the diaphagram still puzzles me, i havent been able to do it.
 
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This thread is just amazing. I've read through it twice, and im going to read it again.

Nice.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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