"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Was I too forward with this text?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
99Z0RN
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Yeah, I know it was. Should I apologize?
lamath
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I would not.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
RickTheToad
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99Z0RN
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Shes 23 and goes to church every Sunday..
99Z0RN
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True, I still feel like it was way too direct on my part though
lamath
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This
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Most women these days aren’t going to tell you when you’ve turned them off or that something you did bothered them. Just because she replied and didn’t say anything about it doesn’t mean she won’t head for the hills out of nowhere. You really have to be paying attention at all times what you say and do because they’ll scare off easily. You can be replaced for the next guy within the snap of a finger.
Igetit!
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Agreed....
For damn sure DON'T APOLOGIZE. Apologizing would be worse than making the comment in the first place.
Just do like Sazc said...don't do anything and move on. Just don't bring it up and don't do it again.
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That’s why I’m considering apologizing. I’m looing more for a long term girlfriend anyway
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Is that right? I had her over the other day and I couldn’t get her clothes off. Good kisser though
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Apologizing will just dig you a deeper hole.
99Z0RN
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How do though? I don’t really understand why
RickTheToad
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She's a tease. ASR. Keep pushing, but when she says no, backup. You can always try again a few minutes later. As you're kissing, your hands should be caressing her body. Don't go directly to her boobs, pus or ass, but arms, thighs, midsection, and then explore.
You just ease off the sexual talk via text for awhile. Be sexual in person. Don’t tell her you’re about to go downtown on her, just so it when you finally get her naked.
RickTheToad
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Agreed. All the direct an aggressiveness shown in that post about eat her out, will be negated. Just be careful on what you text. Who knows who's she shown that to so far.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.