thinktank1985
Don Juan
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so when did you loose your virginity?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Think of it this way, people coming to this site probably HAVEN'T and are here for that same reason.thinktank1985 said:wow..it seems I should have increased the number of options in the upper age limit...i thought most puas would have lost their virginity much earlier![]()
Agreeing with Aragon034,thinktank1985 said:wow..it seems I should have increased the number of options in the upper age limit...i thought most puas would have lost their virginity much earlier![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Logical Player said:seriously, you guys are like little boys
its LOSE, not LOOSE
when you lose something, that means you lost something
when you make something LOOSE, that means you make it "less tight"
i kind of think its geeky to always misspell the word lose of all things
It's not a grammatical issue, it's a spelling issue. Grammar is about sentence structure. It's just one too many O's. And yes, after seeing it for a 928th time on the internet, it gets f*cking annoying.Jon55 said:Well since you're being nit-picky, it's not misspelling, it's poor grammar. But I agree with you. Lose, loose, they're, their, there, it's, its, etc.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.