"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Vacation girl: keeping in touch or not?

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I've tried to find similar thread but no luck. So I was out of town on vacation and met this girl, we had a fling. The thing is, we live in different cities, but I have relatives in her city that I visit once or twice a year. So if we're both single it'd be cool to have a girl to hang out when going there. My question is, to make the job easier, should I keep in touch with her (how often?) or should I invite her for a coffee out of the blue once I'm there? This could be applied for other girls from now on.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Roober said:
I would say only reach out a couple days in advance before you go. If there is interest, she will make time to see you.
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That's a valuable advice. But don't you think I should text her once in a while to keep myself on her to do list?
 
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Don't you have girls in your city?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Gary Goldman said:
Why not spinning plates everywhere you go? New and old ones...
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Spinning plates is when you're seeing them regularly. At least on a weekly or bi-weekly basis if not days.

You're only going to be seeing this girl once, if you're lucky, twice a year. What is the guarantee that she will be single or available those times you visit?

Accept it for what it was. A fling.

If you start texting her and chatting her up from long distance, you risk becoming her emotional tampon and entering an LDR without any real benefits.

All you can do now is, forget about her and focus on where you are right now. On the times when you do visit, hit her up and tell her you're in her city and want to take her out or whatever.

Don't waste any more time texting her unless you're trying to get into a relationship with her or something.
 
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You're totally right. It'll change my mindset when dealing with this kind of situation. Thanks.
 
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