Vacation girl: keeping in touch or not?

[Gary Goldman]

I've tried to find similar thread but no luck. So I was out of town on vacation and met this girl, we had a fling. The thing is, we live in different cities, but I have relatives in her city that I visit once or twice a year. So if we're both single it'd be cool to have a girl to hang out when going there. My question is, to make the job easier, should I keep in touch with her (how often?) or should I invite her for a coffee out of the blue once I'm there? This could be applied for other girls from now on.

 

[Roober]

I would say only reach out a couple days in advance before you go. If there is interest, she will make time to see you.

 

[Gary Goldman]

I would say only reach out a couple days in advance before you go. If there is interest, she will make time to see you.

That's a valuable advice. But don't you think I should text her once in a while to keep myself on her to do list?

 

[El Payaso]

Don't you have girls in your city?

 

[Gary Goldman]

Don't you have girls in your city?

Why not spinning plates everywhere you go? New and old ones...

 

[El Payaso]

Why not spinning plates everywhere you go? New and old ones...

Spinning plates is when you're seeing them regularly. At least on a weekly or bi-weekly basis if not days.

You're only going to be seeing this girl once, if you're lucky, twice a year. What is the guarantee that she will be single or available those times you visit?

Accept it for what it was. A fling.

If you start texting her and chatting her up from long distance, you risk becoming her emotional tampon and entering an LDR without any real benefits.

All you can do now is, forget about her and focus on where you are right now. On the times when you do visit, hit her up and tell her you're in her city and want to take her out or whatever.

Don't waste any more time texting her unless you're trying to get into a relationship with her or something.

 

[Gary Goldman]

You're totally right. It'll change my mindset when dealing with this kind of situation. Thanks.