"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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tennisbuck12

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I took this check out last Saturday and we had a great time. She's been intitating and texting me all week. Last night we had tentative plans (both of us are busy) but it was pretty much a go. I had to list we to all day. Well, when I said what do you feel like doing she said she wants to stay at home and have drinks. She couldn't invite me over because we've only met once. She said we could do dinne on Sunday. Do you guys think I should not ask her? Or what should o do. I'm a little turned off
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Never ask a woman 'what do you feel like doing?'. That's a rookie error. Don't do that again EVER. It's weak.

If you're 'a little turned off, it's from how you handled things and leaves her wondering if you have a set.

She offered an alternative. Accept or don't. But if you're going to accept, pick the time and place.
 

RangerMIke

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Never ask a woman 'what do you feel like doing?'. That's a rookie error. Don't do that again EVER. It's weak.
Yep.... If you are inviting her out... you are bringing her along to what you are doing. Asking her wants she wants to do is supplication and approval seeking, women really don't like this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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marmel75

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Never ask a woman 'what do you feel like doing?'. That's a rookie error. Don't do that again EVER. It's weak.

If you're 'a little turned off, it's from how you handled things and leaves her wondering if you have a set.

She offered an alternative. Accept or don't. But if you're going to accept, pick the time and place.
You fvcked up pretty bad in her eyes...one of the biggest and quickest ways to turn off a woman is to not lead. Never ask what they want to do. Let them know what you two will be doing together and then go from there.
 
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