"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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tennisbuck12

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I took this check out last Saturday and we had a great time. She's been intitating and texting me all week. Last night we had tentative plans (both of us are busy) but it was pretty much a go. I had to list we to all day. Well, when I said what do you feel like doing she said she wants to stay at home and have drinks. She couldn't invite me over because we've only met once. She said we could do dinne on Sunday. Do you guys think I should not ask her? Or what should o do. I'm a little turned off
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tictac

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Never ask a woman 'what do you feel like doing?'. That's a rookie error. Don't do that again EVER. It's weak.

If you're 'a little turned off, it's from how you handled things and leaves her wondering if you have a set.

She offered an alternative. Accept or don't. But if you're going to accept, pick the time and place.
 

RangerMIke

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Never ask a woman 'what do you feel like doing?'. That's a rookie error. Don't do that again EVER. It's weak.
Yep.... If you are inviting her out... you are bringing her along to what you are doing. Asking her wants she wants to do is supplication and approval seeking, women really don't like this.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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marmel75

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Never ask a woman 'what do you feel like doing?'. That's a rookie error. Don't do that again EVER. It's weak.

If you're 'a little turned off, it's from how you handled things and leaves her wondering if you have a set.

She offered an alternative. Accept or don't. But if you're going to accept, pick the time and place.
You fvcked up pretty bad in her eyes...one of the biggest and quickest ways to turn off a woman is to not lead. Never ask what they want to do. Let them know what you two will be doing together and then go from there.
 
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