"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I took this check out last Saturday and we had a great time. She's been intitating and texting me all week. Last night we had tentative plans (both of us are busy) but it was pretty much a go. I had to list we to all day. Well, when I said what do you feel like doing she said she wants to stay at home and have drinks. She couldn't invite me over because we've only met once. She said we could do dinne on Sunday. Do you guys think I should not ask her? Or what should o do. I'm a little turned off
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Never ask a woman 'what do you feel like doing?'. That's a rookie error. Don't do that again EVER. It's weak.

If you're 'a little turned off, it's from how you handled things and leaves her wondering if you have a set.

She offered an alternative. Accept or don't. But if you're going to accept, pick the time and place.
 
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Tictac said:
Never ask a woman 'what do you feel like doing?'. That's a rookie error. Don't do that again EVER. It's weak.
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Yep.... If you are inviting her out... you are bringing her along to what you are doing. Asking her wants she wants to do is supplication and approval seeking, women really don't like this.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tictac said:
Never ask a woman 'what do you feel like doing?'. That's a rookie error. Don't do that again EVER. It's weak.

If you're 'a little turned off, it's from how you handled things and leaves her wondering if you have a set.

She offered an alternative. Accept or don't. But if you're going to accept, pick the time and place.
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You fvcked up pretty bad in her eyes...one of the biggest and quickest ways to turn off a woman is to not lead. Never ask what they want to do. Let them know what you two will be doing together and then go from there.
 
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