Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
"a friend of mine".ezio said:when you call her phone and she asks who is this even though you've called he multiple time already....*happened to a friend of mine*
I strongly agree here, to which I add that your gut is the ultimate gauge following this first evaluation.TillTheEndOfTime said:If she's not excited or enthusiastic about going out with you (believe me you will know when she is), it is going nowhere. That pretty much sums up everything.
AgreedJay Dee said:Following on from that (off topic slightly).... until you've got your duck inside the gal, a date means nothing.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ach - you beat me to it :crackup:SpazzAttackk said:When her mouth is wrapped around your dvck. Thats a tell-tale sign!
Are you done editing?GotED? said:This is sad - really sad
Most men try to 'decipher' a woman's encrypted message inside-out, left-to-right, diagnoal-hexagonal, present-past-future. Men who have NO OPTIONS try to hard to logically illogicaly think themselves into a deducted conclusion that a woman is interested based on a tiny unsubstantial amount of evidence:
- Oh yeah, she didn't reply to my text, but it was after 9pm! she probably went to bed early (bs)
- Maybe she is really sick... (bs)
- She must be playing hard to get (bs)
- She looked at me .00005 seconds longer than other people (bs)
- Wait, did she touch me as she walked by? Was that kino? (bs)
- Her leg is crossed and facing towards me (bs)
The simple thing is, if you don't get a STRAIGHT FORWARD answer and have to guess on the response, you should be hitting the NEXT button.
A woman fully interested in you will make no mistakes about a clear response to seeing you.
Exodus
I will make it purple just for you.SpazzAttackk said:Are you done editing?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
GotED? said:I will make it purple just for you.
#5 happened to me. Funny thing was that she showed signs of interest in other ways. She went along with my plans, returned my text msgs, etc. But on our second date she ended it early with a lame excuse totally out of the blue. I know she has an ex that she really liked. Maybe she got a text and they're getting back together?Victory Unlimited said:Here are few for you:
1. When she claims to not "know" if she'll be free or not on the day that you ask her to go out with you on a date.
2. When she "suddenly" tells you that her cousin, her best friend from out of town, or her relatives have come to town on the day she was supposed to go out with you.
3. When she calls you @ 11am to cancel a date you have with her at 7pm that same night because she's not "feeling well". (What she's telling you is that she ain't even PLANNING on trying to feel better to go out with yo' ass 8 HOURS LATER!!!)
4. On the day of the date itself: When she claims to have FORGOTTEN that you even asked her out in the first place!
5. When she goes out with you but ENDS THE DATE early----claiming she has to get up early in the morning or she has to go pick her kids, etc.
6. When she agrees to go out with you------but surprises you by bringing someone on the date "with her"------to block you from getting anywhere near close to her.
I could go on. But I'll let the other So Suavers chime in...
V.U.
LOL I don't think there's a guy alive that hasn't gotten this one!Dust 2 Dust said:She doesn't return phone calls and claims her phone wasn't working. Lamest excuse there is.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.