You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"a friend of mine".ezio said:when you call her phone and she asks who is this even though you've called he multiple time already....*happened to a friend of mine*
I strongly agree here, to which I add that your gut is the ultimate gauge following this first evaluation.TillTheEndOfTime said:If she's not excited or enthusiastic about going out with you (believe me you will know when she is), it is going nowhere. That pretty much sums up everything.
AgreedJay Dee said:Following on from that (off topic slightly).... until you've got your duck inside the gal, a date means nothing.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ach - you beat me to it :crackup:SpazzAttackk said:When her mouth is wrapped around your dvck. Thats a tell-tale sign!
Are you done editing?GotED? said:This is sad - really sad
Most men try to 'decipher' a woman's encrypted message inside-out, left-to-right, diagnoal-hexagonal, present-past-future. Men who have NO OPTIONS try to hard to logically illogicaly think themselves into a deducted conclusion that a woman is interested based on a tiny unsubstantial amount of evidence:
- Oh yeah, she didn't reply to my text, but it was after 9pm! she probably went to bed early (bs)
- Maybe she is really sick... (bs)
- She must be playing hard to get (bs)
- She looked at me .00005 seconds longer than other people (bs)
- Wait, did she touch me as she walked by? Was that kino? (bs)
- Her leg is crossed and facing towards me (bs)
The simple thing is, if you don't get a STRAIGHT FORWARD answer and have to guess on the response, you should be hitting the NEXT button.
A woman fully interested in you will make no mistakes about a clear response to seeing you.
Exodus
I will make it purple just for you.SpazzAttackk said:Are you done editing?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
GotED? said:I will make it purple just for you.
#5 happened to me. Funny thing was that she showed signs of interest in other ways. She went along with my plans, returned my text msgs, etc. But on our second date she ended it early with a lame excuse totally out of the blue. I know she has an ex that she really liked. Maybe she got a text and they're getting back together?Victory Unlimited said:Here are few for you:
1. When she claims to not "know" if she'll be free or not on the day that you ask her to go out with you on a date.
2. When she "suddenly" tells you that her cousin, her best friend from out of town, or her relatives have come to town on the day she was supposed to go out with you.
3. When she calls you @ 11am to cancel a date you have with her at 7pm that same night because she's not "feeling well". (What she's telling you is that she ain't even PLANNING on trying to feel better to go out with yo' ass 8 HOURS LATER!!!)
4. On the day of the date itself: When she claims to have FORGOTTEN that you even asked her out in the first place!
5. When she goes out with you but ENDS THE DATE early----claiming she has to get up early in the morning or she has to go pick her kids, etc.
6. When she agrees to go out with you------but surprises you by bringing someone on the date "with her"------to block you from getting anywhere near close to her.
I could go on. But I'll let the other So Suavers chime in...
V.U.
LOL I don't think there's a guy alive that hasn't gotten this one!Dust 2 Dust said:She doesn't return phone calls and claims her phone wasn't working. Lamest excuse there is.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.