You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"a friend of mine".ezio said:when you call her phone and she asks who is this even though you've called he multiple time already....*happened to a friend of mine*
I strongly agree here, to which I add that your gut is the ultimate gauge following this first evaluation.TillTheEndOfTime said:If she's not excited or enthusiastic about going out with you (believe me you will know when she is), it is going nowhere. That pretty much sums up everything.
AgreedJay Dee said:Following on from that (off topic slightly).... until you've got your duck inside the gal, a date means nothing.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Ach - you beat me to it :crackup:SpazzAttackk said:When her mouth is wrapped around your dvck. Thats a tell-tale sign!
Are you done editing?GotED? said:This is sad - really sad
Most men try to 'decipher' a woman's encrypted message inside-out, left-to-right, diagnoal-hexagonal, present-past-future. Men who have NO OPTIONS try to hard to logically illogicaly think themselves into a deducted conclusion that a woman is interested based on a tiny unsubstantial amount of evidence:
- Oh yeah, she didn't reply to my text, but it was after 9pm! she probably went to bed early (bs)
- Maybe she is really sick... (bs)
- She must be playing hard to get (bs)
- She looked at me .00005 seconds longer than other people (bs)
- Wait, did she touch me as she walked by? Was that kino? (bs)
- Her leg is crossed and facing towards me (bs)
The simple thing is, if you don't get a STRAIGHT FORWARD answer and have to guess on the response, you should be hitting the NEXT button.
A woman fully interested in you will make no mistakes about a clear response to seeing you.
Exodus
I will make it purple just for you.SpazzAttackk said:Are you done editing?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
GotED? said:I will make it purple just for you.
#5 happened to me. Funny thing was that she showed signs of interest in other ways. She went along with my plans, returned my text msgs, etc. But on our second date she ended it early with a lame excuse totally out of the blue. I know she has an ex that she really liked. Maybe she got a text and they're getting back together?Victory Unlimited said:Here are few for you:
1. When she claims to not "know" if she'll be free or not on the day that you ask her to go out with you on a date.
2. When she "suddenly" tells you that her cousin, her best friend from out of town, or her relatives have come to town on the day she was supposed to go out with you.
3. When she calls you @ 11am to cancel a date you have with her at 7pm that same night because she's not "feeling well". (What she's telling you is that she ain't even PLANNING on trying to feel better to go out with yo' ass 8 HOURS LATER!!!)
4. On the day of the date itself: When she claims to have FORGOTTEN that you even asked her out in the first place!
5. When she goes out with you but ENDS THE DATE early----claiming she has to get up early in the morning or she has to go pick her kids, etc.
6. When she agrees to go out with you------but surprises you by bringing someone on the date "with her"------to block you from getting anywhere near close to her.
I could go on. But I'll let the other So Suavers chime in...
V.U.
LOL I don't think there's a guy alive that hasn't gotten this one!Dust 2 Dust said:She doesn't return phone calls and claims her phone wasn't working. Lamest excuse there is.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.