"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Toned and Defined vs Muscular and Big

NeedToImprove

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which of you guys are looking for? personally i dont wanna look like some scharznegger or one of those big guys at the gym. just wanna burn my fat, get a lean defined body, which can show a good sixpack, that's what im aiming for the next months/year. anyone agrees that the disco bouncer image is kinda a past thing?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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somewhere between the two - I want a 42" chest with damn good abs...

but then I want to improve my lifts as much as possible...

and yeah girls prefer smaller but toned, they have no taste I'm afraid!
 

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I guess a lot of it depends on your body type. Some of us will just never have that Bruce Lee body, and some of us will never have Arnold's either!

At 5-6 & 155lbs, I don't really think that 'disco bouncer image' is one I'll ever attain lol. It's alright, I like the lean and ripped look a lot better, now if I can just fine tune my diet a little...
 

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Big, wide, and ripped for me.
 

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Definitely huge. What's the point of being small? I'll just step on your neck and steal your woman, and what are you going to do about it anyway girly man? Nothin'!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Warboss Alex

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howardalex said:
and yeah girls prefer smaller but toned
just like guys 'prefer' big breasts? everyone's different. don't let that stop you, if you want to be be big, be big.. people (girls) will appreciate you more for doing what YOU want rather than going along with what you think they do.
 

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i just got back from a softball tournament... a bunch of the guys there were small and thin. I don't know where it's come from but lately skinny guys just look sickly to me now. I am jealous they're walking around with abs but they're flat and boring everywhere else. I'd eat them on a sandwich but they're too stringy.
 

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Warboss Alex said:
just like guys 'prefer' big breasts? everyone's different. don't let that stop you, if you want to be be big, be big.. people (girls) will appreciate you more for doing what YOU want rather than going along with what you think they do.
true...what I mean is, that most girls go for that...and yeah I'm not one of these guys who says "eww all that muscle is horrible" - I'd love to get huge but it seems fewer girls like it :(
 

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You'll get more girls if you assert yourself in training the way YOU want - just because it shows confidence of character.
 
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