You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
From the shows I have heard, it's about some repulsive couch potato teaching guys how to be bitter and distrusting towards women.TheMale said:what it's about ?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
but that's what we want to avoid here on sosuave, to put the women in the center of our world.Jariel said:Instead of trying to blame others for his shortcomings, a better attitude would be to look at himself, ask why he's experiencing this kind of reaction from women and what he can do to change that.
I think the whole not caring about women philosophy gets wildly exaggerated and is not really authentic. Of course, it's important to have hobbies, friends and a life outside of women, but there's nothing wrong with pursuing women, sex, even love if that's what you want. And like anything in life, if you want something you have to work for it.TheMale said:but that's what we want to avoid here on sosuave, to put the women in the center of our world.
if i'm asking myself why i get bad result with woman and i'm working to change that so i can finally attract women, my center of world is WOMEN.
true ?
never tought about it that way !Jariel said:I believe it's more important not to make one particular woman the centre of your world.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.