You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
From the shows I have heard, it's about some repulsive couch potato teaching guys how to be bitter and distrusting towards women.TheMale said:what it's about ?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
but that's what we want to avoid here on sosuave, to put the women in the center of our world.Jariel said:Instead of trying to blame others for his shortcomings, a better attitude would be to look at himself, ask why he's experiencing this kind of reaction from women and what he can do to change that.
I think the whole not caring about women philosophy gets wildly exaggerated and is not really authentic. Of course, it's important to have hobbies, friends and a life outside of women, but there's nothing wrong with pursuing women, sex, even love if that's what you want. And like anything in life, if you want something you have to work for it.TheMale said:but that's what we want to avoid here on sosuave, to put the women in the center of our world.
if i'm asking myself why i get bad result with woman and i'm working to change that so i can finally attract women, my center of world is WOMEN.
true ?
never tought about it that way !Jariel said:I believe it's more important not to make one particular woman the centre of your world.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.