You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
From the shows I have heard, it's about some repulsive couch potato teaching guys how to be bitter and distrusting towards women.TheMale said:what it's about ?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
but that's what we want to avoid here on sosuave, to put the women in the center of our world.Jariel said:Instead of trying to blame others for his shortcomings, a better attitude would be to look at himself, ask why he's experiencing this kind of reaction from women and what he can do to change that.
I think the whole not caring about women philosophy gets wildly exaggerated and is not really authentic. Of course, it's important to have hobbies, friends and a life outside of women, but there's nothing wrong with pursuing women, sex, even love if that's what you want. And like anything in life, if you want something you have to work for it.TheMale said:but that's what we want to avoid here on sosuave, to put the women in the center of our world.
if i'm asking myself why i get bad result with woman and i'm working to change that so i can finally attract women, my center of world is WOMEN.
true ?
never tought about it that way !Jariel said:I believe it's more important not to make one particular woman the centre of your world.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.