"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This One Illustration Proves my Point

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This is the difference between high sexual attraction, and low sexual attraction.

It is the difference between being at work and getting an HR complaint for sexual harassment, and not.

It is the difference between being in the public and having a woman flip out on you, or call the police, and not.

It is the difference between smashing on the first night that you meet her (or very soon thereafter), or having to take her on 3-4 dates before you get the goodies.

@Sega Genesis

How a woman behaves towards you, is based upon her level of attraction towards you.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the point here is very true. it extends the other direction also. hot women get away with things at work where ugly ones would not. our problem is the continuing effort to hide or deny this. much better to just openly admit it.

for example a hot woman does not often need to be good at anything other than being hot, to advance.
 

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@Sega Genesis

How a woman behaves towards you, is based upon her level of attraction towards you.

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I actually don't disagree with this^^. And that meme is funny! :rofl:

However...

This is quite different from our discussion on the other thread about approaching a random woman in public telling her you want to suck her t*ts, suck your c0ck, f*ck her or any other comment of a sexual nature.. On the street, grocery store, or your favorites Target and Walmart.

Which YOU seem to think is okay.

It is not. Again it is considered public sexual harassment and against the law.

Look Venom I don't write the laws, okay? It is our job as responsible citizens to learn them and abide by them.

If you choose not to, have at it! LOL No skin off.my nose.

It may be fine and turn out great! Which according to you it has! Fabulous. I'm happy you've found something that works!

On the other hand, there may be that one woman who isn’t cool with it and makes life difficult for you in a legal sense. And good luck should that ever happen

That's all I am saying....
 
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I actually don't disagree with this^^. And that meme is funny! :rofl:

However...

This is quite different from our discussion on the other thread about approaching a random women in public telling her you want to suck her t*ts, suck your c0ck, f*ck her or any other comment of a sexual nature.. On the street, grocery store, or your favorites Target and Walmart.

Which YOU seem to think is okay.
It's the same concept, SG.

It is not. Again it is considered public sexual harassment and against the law.

Look Venom I don't write the laws, okay? It is our job as responsible citizens to learn them and abide by them.
You cannot sexually harass someone, if the person is sexually attracted to you.

I'm trying to figure out what part of that you ain't understanding.

If you choose not to, have at it! LOL No skin off.my nose.

It may be fine and turn out great!

On the other hand, there may be that one woman who isn’t cool with it and makes life difficult for you in a legal sense.

That's all I am saying....
I don't use Mode One Hardcore in the public.

Thanks for your concern though.
 

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You cannot sexually harass someone, if the person is sexually attracted to you.

I'm trying to figure out what part of that you ain't understanding.
Lol, ok man YOU win! .:lol:

Can you let this go now?

It's all good.

Promise.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I actually don't disagree with this^^. And that meme is funny! :rofl:

However...

This is quite different from our discussion on the other thread about approaching a random woman in public telling her you want to suck her t*ts, suck your c0ck, f*ck her or any other comment of a sexual nature.. On the street, grocery store, or your favorites Target and Walmart.

Which YOU seem to think is okay.

It is not. Again it is considered public sexual harassment and against the law.

Look Venom I don't write the laws, okay? It is our job as responsible citizens to learn them and abide by them.

If you choose not to, have at it! LOL No skin off.my nose.

It may be fine and turn out great! Which according to you it has! Fabulous. I'm happy you've found something that works!

On the other hand, there may be that one woman who isn’t cool with it and makes life difficult for you in a legal sense. And good luck should that ever happen

That's all I am saying....
This would be like walking up to someone and saying "Hey I really like that car you are driving" And then demand to have it since you like it.
 
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Resist the thread hijack attempts dudes...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This is the difference between high sexual attraction, and low sexual attraction.

It is the difference between being at work and getting an HR complaint for sexual harassment, and not.

It is the difference between being in the public and having a woman flip out on you, or call the police, and not.

It is the difference between smashing on the first night that you meet her (or very soon thereafter), or having to take her on 3-4 dates before you get the goodies.

@Sega Genesis

How a woman behaves towards you, is based upon her level of attraction towards you.

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Are you familiar with the concept of binary thinking?

Also, Lemonquesha?? Are meme makers subject to DEI quotas nowadays, just like Hollywood?
 

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This is the difference between high sexual attraction, and low sexual attraction.

It is the difference between being at work and getting an HR complaint for sexual harassment, and not.

It is the difference between being in the public and having a woman flip out on you, or call the police, and not.

It is the difference between smashing on the first night that you meet her (or very soon thereafter), or having to take her on 3-4 dates before you get the goodies.

@Sega Genesis

How a woman behaves towards you, is based upon her level of attraction towards you.

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Lemonquesha :rofl:
 

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Ive worked in corporate my whole career so I know the ins and outs of the environment. Much like gym you can create aura by behaving a certain way, you dont have to be the best looking as long as you crush the environment. If you have other employees come up to you, ask you for advise, you have charisma and capability then people notice. Social status gives you the ability to make moves over looks IMO. No HR needed.
 

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C'mon, guys do the same.

When we interact with women, we are way more forgiving of bad behavior if it's done by a woman we find attractive and we think is attainable.

In fact, I'd argue guys are way more forgiving than women.

Obese women who ignores your one text = you ghost her right away.

Hot women who ignores your one hundredth text in a row = you think she's "just busy".
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I don't use Mode One Hardcore in the public.
so wtf are you arguing w ppl about then..
If you don’t even use it ??

wtf are you even talking about … what is
‘mode one, non-hardcore’?
Mode two?:rofl:

Give us an example of how you do a cold approach then and what you say to a woman and how it goes down to get ya d1ck wet.
 

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This is the difference between high sexual attraction, and low sexual attraction.

It is the difference between being at work and getting an HR complaint for sexual harassment, and not.

It is the difference between being in the public and having a woman flip out on you, or call the police, and not.

It is the difference between smashing on the first night that you meet her (or very soon thereafter), or having to take her on 3-4 dates before you get the goodies.

@Sega Genesis

How a woman behaves towards you, is based upon her level of attraction towards you.

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Yep.
 

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Why are you acting like this is some deep insight?

Every high school student with a functioning brain understands this dynamic.
Apparently the insight ain't deep enough, because if it is, then guys wouldn't be out here wasting time/money on dates with women, and/or putting themselves in positions to get flaked on.

Just because it is widely comprehended, doesn't mean it is widely apprehended.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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