If you agree to drinks with him can you at least agree to hangout with me once then at least?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
This is how it’s done fellas!
- Thread starter SeekerOfTheWay
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
SeekerOfTheWay
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no. leave me alone!!
redskinsfan92
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Man, you need to stop it. She's told you no multiple times. That's just on the threads I have read. I don't even read every thread.
Epic Days
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Hey man, the moderators will boot you off the forums if you keep it up.
This isnt a dating site. It’s inappropriate.
Women are here by good graces. This is a man’s site.
You were nice to me again and then you turn on a dime
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
lamath
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The Thirst is real!!!!!
You would come in here and throw out ONE example that's an exception to the argument... are you proud of yourself?... you make me sick
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I've banned biggoal for 30 days for continuing to bother @SeekerOfTheWay . If he comes back, he'll be under my magnifying glass and another transgression will be a perma-ban.
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AJ84
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Yikes, if a post from an anonymous poster a million times removed from your life triggers you like that, you have bigger things to worry about than what’s posted on this forum.
Unclench, have a drink, and chill.
Luckily you're a newbie.
If you were one of the seniors here doing the same, I'd seriously questioned my and others effectiveness in Sosuave.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
Not surprised by Biggoal's ban. At first I felt his posts were sincere but after a while it looks like he didn't take any advice, he just went on about OLD and what the girls were doing and telling him. He reached BigDave's level. I stopped taking his posts seriously when he mentioned a small town news event having a dog costume contest LOL!! Have to admit that made me laugh out loud but seriously, Who gives a fvck about that, what does that have to do with going on a date with Women.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
Big goal comes off like he doesn't even read the replies, even the ones he quotes. He truly exists in his own little world
That's actually a mark of a skilled troll though...
Just block him lol.
-_______- AJ shut the hell up, I was joking
Epic Days
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He has a disability. Possible past head injury.
redskinsfan92
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I'm going with this theory
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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AJ84
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Wha? Lol sorry! Sarcasm doesn’t translate well on this platform. But I hope you did have a drink
.BURT MCQUEEN
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I wish it was so, I saw so many hot chicks with guys that looked like Quasimodo the Hunchback
RickTheToad
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Must be something then.