Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
He's a smart guy. He is wrong about free will, but in his feild he knows his stuff.I like Sapolsky. He's incisive like a razor blade.
I like his succinctness, how he shaves off the fluff to get to the bones of the argument.He's a smart guy. He is wrong about free will, but in his feild he knows his stuff.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The problem is that these notions have infiltrated our collective psyches and men as a whole are demoralized. You don't hear many people espouse anti-men beliefs, but it's definitely there with practically everybody in a subtle way.most of the people denounceing Men, toxic masculinity & testosterone are irrelevant & safely ignored. I live in a Deep Blue aeea of CA & I never hear anyone pushing snti-men stuff. Most people don’t care about it.
I think many younger guys are in that boat. I’m middle aged and grew up with ‘manly-men’ role models, But I’ve noticed younger male coworkers seem less interested in women. T levels have dropped.The problem is that these notions have infiltrated our collective psyches and men as a whole are demoralized. You don't hear many people espouse anti-men beliefs, but it's definitely there with practically everybody in a subtle way.
I've noticed that too. I think it's also the increased social engineering.I
I think many younger guys are in that boat. I’m middle aged and grew up with ‘manly-men’ role models, But I’ve noticed younger male coworkers seem less interested in women. T levels have dropped.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
My Zoomer ex- told me I was, by far, the horniest guy she’d ever been with. She wasn’t high notch count. But all the other guys she’d been with were closer to her age.I've noticed that too. I think it's also the increased social engineering.
I’ve gotten this too, blows my mind.My Zoomer ex- told me I was, by far, the horniest guy she’d ever been with. She wasn’t high notch count. But all the other guys she’d been with were closer to her age.
think many younger guys are in that boat. I’m middle aged and grew up with ‘manly-men’ role models, But I’ve noticed younger male coworkers seem less interested in women. T levels have dropped.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yep, my own experience has been that it's usually the younger guys having the lower interest levels - I also think that growing up with so much readily available 'pron' will be having a negative effect....I think many younger guys are in that boat. I’m middle aged and grew up with ‘manly-men’ role models, But I’ve noticed younger male coworkers seem less interested in women. T levels have dropped.
My Zoomer ex- told me I was, by far, the horniest guy she’d ever been with. She wasn’t high notch count. But all the other guys she’d been with were closer to her age.
I've also had similar comments from several women who were 15 to 20 yrs younger than me....I’ve gotten this too, blows my mind.