"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This forum is lowering people's testosterone levels

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Watch this video and you'll understand why


 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I like Sapolsky. He's incisive like a razor blade.
 

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He's a smart guy. He is wrong about free will, but in his feild he knows his stuff.
I like his succinctness, how he shaves off the fluff to get to the bones of the argument.
 

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This is the type of stuff that fascinates me: neuroscience and masculinity. Testosterone has become the scapegoat/root cause of society's violence. Effectively, men have been demonized and I don't mean that with any victimized tone. But the concept of masculinity has been watered down to suit "equality". Men have become feminized, which is WRONG. And I wouldn't be surprised to go as far as to say that many of the vices, distractions and even products around are designed to lower T-levels.

Excellent video finding, man.

Modern Man Advice
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I swear if I get a doctorate in this stuff and say that breathing lowers testosterone, I would have indirectly killed a vast majority of this forum.
 

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most of the people denounceing Men, toxic masculinity & testosterone are irrelevant & safely ignored. I live in a Deep Blue aeea of CA & I never hear anyone pushing snti-men stuff. Most people don’t care about it.
 

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most of the people denounceing Men, toxic masculinity & testosterone are irrelevant & safely ignored. I live in a Deep Blue aeea of CA & I never hear anyone pushing snti-men stuff. Most people don’t care about it.
The problem is that these notions have infiltrated our collective psyches and men as a whole are demoralized. You don't hear many people espouse anti-men beliefs, but it's definitely there with practically everybody in a subtle way.
 

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The problem is that these notions have infiltrated our collective psyches and men as a whole are demoralized. You don't hear many people espouse anti-men beliefs, but it's definitely there with practically everybody in a subtle way.
I think many younger guys are in that boat. I’m middle aged and grew up with ‘manly-men’ role models, But I’ve noticed younger male coworkers seem less interested in women. T levels have dropped.
 

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I think many younger guys are in that boat. I’m middle aged and grew up with ‘manly-men’ role models, But I’ve noticed younger male coworkers seem less interested in women. T levels have dropped.
I've noticed that too. I think it's also the increased social engineering.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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think many younger guys are in that boat. I’m middle aged and grew up with ‘manly-men’ role models, But I’ve noticed younger male coworkers seem less interested in women. T levels have dropped.

My brother is close to ten years younger than me. I was the best man at his wedding and met many of his college friends for the first time. 4 of the 6 in the wedding didn’t even have a date... and on the limo to the wedding were talking about video games.... at the wedding they danced with each other and didn’t make any moves on any of the single girls there.... much different times....
 

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Sounds like a lot of pseudoscience that sounds good but has no basis in reality.
 

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Your testosterone decrease when your position is low in the social hierarchy, when you're told to sit down and shut up while you cannot do anything to fight back even when the offender is a weaker creature that nature never intended to have a say yet now can make or break you effortlessly.

Does it remind you of any place you've been in the first years of your life?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think many younger guys are in that boat. I’m middle aged and grew up with ‘manly-men’ role models, But I’ve noticed younger male coworkers seem less interested in women. T levels have dropped.
Yep, my own experience has been that it's usually the younger guys having the lower interest levels - I also think that growing up with so much readily available 'pron' will be having a negative effect....

Seriously... If I'd had 24/7 access to hardcore pronography in my late teens/early 20s.... I'd have probably jerked myself away to a shadow.... :rofl:


My Zoomer ex- told me I was, by far, the horniest guy she’d ever been with. She wasn’t high notch count. But all the other guys she’d been with were closer to her age.
I’ve gotten this too, blows my mind.
I've also had similar comments from several women who were 15 to 20 yrs younger than me....
I noticed a comment in another thread where a guy in mid 20s said he went soft DURING sex....
Yikes! - Even at my age I barely soften much at all even after finishing... If the woman is willing, I can still continue without needing any 'downtime', and won't come down from 'attention' until we're done for the night.
 

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Some of us are blessed with great (low) prolactin levels. It can, however be a burden sometimes when your woman cannot possibly handle more.

I’ve never understood some women’s inability to handle a good extended tussle, then there are those that go like energizer bunnies. There’s no correlation to age, fitness, or snugness or anything else I can figure out.
 
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