Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That's because the Dating Apocalypse that began growing in the '90s had men researching PUA game and thinking "this will solve my problem", and then trying to apply such game and coming up empty enough times that they became cynical, with some going as far as to admit that "it's over". Tinder's bleak numbers for men was the coup de grace.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You want me to share life experiences I've had that make me know better than to blindly listen to guys who talk big on an Internet forum?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
this sounds like projection mainly
No. I've noticed that when the "top guys" actually do post specifics... Their results are not as good as what they were claiming.this sounds like projection mainly
if a guy is smart he projects that most people are smart . If he is dumb he projects that he is smart while the others are dumb
same thing with women
this Is why experienced guys find it difficult to talk with guys that do not have experience and have a thick skull
