Think i am starting to lose interest in life

[Plinco]

This is a question of what you want. No one can answer that but you.

I know that I want to change society, get into politics, and date young women.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I am not "rich"

I can live comfortably within my means but that is only because i don't indulge in buying things i don't need or feel the need to show off to others

Sadly most rich people aren't happy they sold themselves to get to where they are trampling over people and making others lives a misery even with the most muted conscience this darkens the soul

On top of that the people that are usually around them are just interlopers hanging around for the ride whilst the going's good

If you get a chance go to Monaco and witness it for your self

It's just endless d1ck swinging and competing

So utterly pointless

How would I go to Monaco? I’m not rich. Give your head a shake and have some gratitude for your accomplishments

 

[Reyaj]

Quite simply I have found that procreation and enjoying life's pleasures is purpose.

This is only the path I found though. Everyone must find their own..

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Maybe try listening to this song over and over?

 

[BeExcellent]

What @Fruitbat said. Read & reread.

Life is the journey. Meaning is in the journey.

Have gratitude for the blessings you have, enjoy each moment because we cannot know our final fate nor our exit.

I am old by some standards, still youthful and very much alive, but in my 50s things come into focus. Last week a close friend diagnosed with colon cancer, losing parents, losing friends, understanding the reality of mortality. Life is struggle but life is also joy. I am grateful each day. I have worked hard and sacrificed much but when I go for a drive in a car few can afford and that engine roars with the top down and the sun on my face and the wind rushing by? It is pure joy. I did this. I am blessed, right here, right now.

I do for friends, sometimes for strangers. I’ve taken people for a ride (as an example) to share a thrill they may never otherwise experience, to give an experience, a story they can tell later, a feeling they can remember the rest of their lives. This lady took me for a ride once…who does that? Maybe I’ve inspired someone maybe given someone joy for a short while.

I’ve given away books I found insightful, I can always buy another copy.

It’s why I’m here too. To give. For me that has meaning. The web we weave is indeed interconnected. Perhaps I’ve been a light in someone’s darkness for a short while.

Be kind. Do for others because you can. You will leave good things in doing this in ways you can only imagine.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Maybe try listening to this song over and over?

Once you've had it in the ear, there's simply no going back.

 

[Murk]

Sounds like low T. Only joking.

I concur with your sentiments, winter is a depressing time in the UK. I think you need to work harder and earn more, also you don’t need church to learn and lean on the Most High. Most people follow unsound doctrine.

Try some winter sun. I’m heading to Antigua soon when I close/wrap up some deals and get invoices sent out.

 

[ubercat]

If I had the answers I d start a cult/YT channel. I m very slowly starting reading on stoicism. The answers better men than me have come up with have been covered here: family, community, service. I d add building character to support all of those founded on the pillars of self-reflection, meditation, exercise and routine. Given the state of the planet add environmentalism to the list. It's a broad church now should find a pew that fits your political perspective.

 

[Machine10033]

Now, what you are having is what’s known as an existential crisis. Maslows hierarchy is filled. You are now on the top tier and are looking for spiritual fulfilment.

Thank you.... I am in a similar funk. Found this forum in 2002. Life was so exciting.. started focusing on myself. Got in crazy shape, was blessed with great genetics 6ft4.. started pulling chicks left and right, traveling the world.... 20 years later I have all the money I need... top of my career and I find myself withdrawing from life.

It’s hard for me to get excited about the things that used to excite me. I feel like the only thing that would bring satisfaction back to my life would be having kids and passing on all the stuff I learned over my lifetime and watching them grow and blow my achievements out of the water.

 

[Bingo-Player]

It’s hard for me to get excited about the things that used to excite me. I feel like the only thing that would bring satisfaction back to my life would be having kids and passing on all the stuff I learned over my lifetime and watching them grow and blow my achievements out of the water.

See heres the thing i don't believe having children and family ultimately brings the "ultimate satisfaction" many seem to believe it does

all that happens is they give you more purpose because you must sacrifice very large parts of your life too ensure they can have theirs

I think a lot of people have kids with the expectation it will solve a problem or add something to life

the reality is you have around 6 years of solid grind whilst they go through the infant - child stage

You then get 5 golden years

Then the hell starts again as they enter their teenage years and often they will want little to nothing to do with you until they reach early adulthood

It doesn't really seem to scream life satisfaction to me

 

[Blacksheep]

Feel something similar.

One the few things that give me some sort of happiness and interest its when I go to my uncles farm. He, her wife and my cousin lives a very simple life, and they are the only people i have met in this life that show some genuine happiness in life.

They have enough money to have their stuffs, but I see that its not about money, its about what we have inside and with whom we connect.

There is no phone signal there. Its only nature. Whenever I go there I feel peace. And I love to observe the dogs, horses and other animals. Its something we as humans are losing chasing stupid fantasies we created to ourselves.

Agree that money can help to achieve freedom and some great stuffs. But it doesnt matter if what we have inside is pure garbage.

So I agree with you, its easy to lose interest in all those sh1t they sell us as luxury or the meaning of success, wealth. There is actually no value in it.

But when you look at the simplest things in life, you see how this existence is amazing.

Ita sad to see that we as humans are destroying this great experience called life.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

About 2 years ago i ended a 4 year LTR because i wanted too try and become this multimillionaire high flying businessman

. Damn.

 

[Bingo-Player]

. Damn.

Well that wasn't the sole reason but i definitely felt something was lacking mainly because i had been subconsciously trained for so many years to "want nice things"

It was probably something i needed to go through so i could understand sometimes you just need to appreciate what you have rather than chasing down a never ending rabbit hole

It was definitely a lesson i needed to learn i was also immature and arrogant two things i am also working to improve

 

[Modern Man Advice]

About 2 years ago i ended a 4 year LTR because i wanted too try and become this multimillionaire high flying businessman

I feel this archetype is often sold to young men as the pinnacle of existence

So i ended the relationship I moved city , expanded my side hustle and really pushed myself out of my comfort zone

Fast forward to today and i don't know i feel kind of lost , in the last year i have started to realise that money and status don't really bring that much happiness they just allow a certain level of freedom and autonomy which is nice but pretty useless when everyone else is willingly involved in the "matrix"

i place very little value in materialistic goods and i am finding the majority of people i meet are very empty and are usually obsessed with their "image" or body and seem to be very easily swayed by whatever the latest widespread hysteria is

( COVID , LGBT , BLM , Ukraine war , Inflation )..... to name a few plot lines in the last couple of years

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I have also lost all interest in alcohol and partying i did use this as my outlet in my 20's but now i am tired of it and also feel its changed quite a lot in the last few years if i got out now i feel like i am forcing myself out

I did try going to church for a bit , some of it did make sense and there were some nice people there

but i was also starting to get some cult like vibes so i don't go very much anymore

I get most of my enjoyment now from hiking and interacting with any animals i see on my travels , unfortunately we are in the heart of the winter in the UK and obviously i can't get out much

I am starting to wonder is this it ? it seems like nearly everyone on the planet is chasing a never ending pit of money / debt and how many "things" can i buy with my money

How do people cope with the banality of life ?

I often wondered whilst i was younger why so many people had children given the amount of time and resources they consume , now i am starting to understand there actually isn't a great deal else to do

You sound like Camus or Sartre. I've been there so I can speak from experience, and ironically reading Camus and Sartre gave me a lot of comfort. Just like listening to Radiohead makes me happy, an oxymoron of some sort.

But you did make a "mistake" which I wouldn't necessarily call it that, you chased happiness. You bought into the destination disease easily sold by people like Andrew Tate or the media (Especially IG). This disease relies on "I'll be happy when ______".

Your best route is to serve others at this point. Volunteer, be kind to your fellow humans, travel, and seek other cultures' perspectives. You will find it's been in you all this time but buried by social constructs and mirages.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Your best route is to serve others at this point. Volunteer, be kind to your fellow humans.

I´ve been thinking about this recently. Most guys here spend their life pursuing money and/or puzzy and when they get it they arent really happy.

 

[Stanley]

@Bingo-Player You start reading Camus yet?

Also, as others have mentioned stoicism is a great tool and philosophy. I use an app called the stoic, it gives you about 5 quotes a day randomly from well known stoics to reflect on. I open that app and start reading whenever I feel a negative emotion coming on during the day. Another thing worth doing is journaling which pairs along with stoicism as well. I think a lot of guys use this forum as a means of venting and journaling in a way. But having your thoughts on paper for you and you alone can be cathartic. I open word doc at least twice a day and just write whatever the hell is going on upstairs. Helped me a metric **** ton

 

[Bingo-Player]

@Bingo-Player You start reading Camus yet?

Also, as others have mentioned stoicism is a great tool and philosophy. I use an app called the stoic, it gives you about 5 quotes a day randomly from well known stoics to reflect on. I open that app and start reading whenever I feel a negative emotion coming on during the day. Another thing worth doing is journaling which pairs along with stoicism as well. I think a lot of guys use this forum as a means of venting and journaling in a way. But having your thoughts on paper for you and you alone can be cathartic. I open word doc at least twice a day and just write whatever the hell is going on upstairs. Helped me a metric **** ton

Not yet i have about 4 books on the go at the moment i can't take anymore material on just yet lol

I do journal already virtually daily you are right its a great tool for calming the mind

I also enjoy reading stuff from like 1 year ago helps me realise i am making progress even if it doesn't feel like it

 

[Bingo-Player]

Your best route is to serve others at this point. Volunteer, be kind to your fellow humans, travel, and seek other cultures' perspectives. You will find it's been in you all this time but buried by social constructs and mirages.

Yes i concur but i do believe that you need to be very very careful about WHOM you serve

There are a lot of people out there who can and will take full advantage of any good nature

I am packing my 9-5 in a the end of the month

I am taking 8 months off work so yes i will be looking to do things like volunteer at animal rescue centre and maybe some dog walking or something to that effect

And also some travelling

 

[evan12]

About 2 years ago i ended a 4 year LTR because i wanted too try and become this multimillionaire high flying businessman

I feel this archetype is often sold to young men as the pinnacle of existence

So i ended the relationship I moved city , expanded my side hustle and really pushed myself out of my comfort zone

Fast forward to today and i don't know i feel kind of lost , in the last year i have started to realise that money and status don't really bring that much happiness they just allow a certain level of freedom and autonomy which is nice but pretty useless when everyone else is willingly involved in the "matrix"

i place very little value in materialistic goods and i am finding the majority of people i meet are very empty and are usually obsessed with their "image" or body and seem to be very easily swayed by whatever the latest widespread hysteria is

( COVID , LGBT , BLM , Ukraine war , Inflation )..... to name a few plot lines in the last couple of years

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I have also lost all interest in alcohol and partying i did use this as my outlet in my 20's but now i am tired of it and also feel its changed quite a lot in the last few years if i got out now i feel like i am forcing myself out

I did try going to church for a bit , some of it did make sense and there were some nice people there

but i was also starting to get some cult like vibes so i don't go very much anymore

I get most of my enjoyment now from hiking and interacting with any animals i see on my travels , unfortunately we are in the heart of the winter in the UK and obviously i can't get out much

I am starting to wonder is this it ? it seems like nearly everyone on the planet is chasing a never ending pit of money / debt and how many "things" can i buy with my money

How do people cope with the banality of life ?

I often wondered whilst i was younger why so many people had children given the amount of time and resources they consume , now i am starting to understand there actually isn't a great deal else to do

Every man has a mission that he feel his importance in that mission, the mission has to include in somehow helping/improving/teaching other people. You need to learn how to give to feel that fulfillment.
try to help others and stop focusing on yourself and your need.
talking about parents, yes many men feel fulfilled when they know there is a family in need for them and that is why married men feel more fulfilled in general than single men.


Also you need to read "The way of superiors man"