Yes, I amare you white, young og?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yes, I amare you white, young og?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Whats funny is she told me she doesn't really want marriage or kids. She said she was just looking for someone normal to hang out with and bang lol. I'll pm you the message I use.That's wasup. Keep her on the team. Don't wife though. Btw what was your first message to her? Do you send the same message to every chick or do you mix it up.
Thanks. You reaffirmed my choice to next her. I have another pof date set up for Saturday. I think there is a good chance she won't flake, but you never know about these women nowadays. Stay tuned...Good ****.
If you were Chris Brown she wouldn't have done that to you so screw her. If your going to deal with a chick deal with 100% co-operation.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That sounds like me from back in the day lol. I would next chicks over the slightest things lol. Now that I have more women in rotation, I have more patience which I think is good for longer term relationships (even if they aren't monogamous). I think that once you get more girls in rotation, you can let stuff like that slide. For me, when girls fvck up, they get dropped to the bottom of the pile but they can still be in the rotation on a slow night or they don't make it a habit.Thanks. You reaffirmed my choice to next her. I have another pof date set up for Saturday. I think there is a good chance she won't flake, but you never know about these women nowadays. Stay tuned...
Maybe I was being a little harsh nexting her so quickly. I'm not going to go back on it though. If I broke no contact now, it would make me look weak. Since she wasn't my type and not hot enough for me, it was easy to next her.That sounds like me from back in the day lol. I would next chicks over the slightest things lol. Now that I have more women in rotation, I have more patience which I think is good for longer term relationships (even if they aren't monogamous). I think that once you get more girls in rotation, you can let stuff like that slide. For me, when girls fvck up, they get dropped to the bottom of the pile but they can still be in the rotation on a slow night or they don't make it a habit.
create something useful. put your brain to work. yeah, flakes suck, but the whole point of being a DJ is that you know how to make yourself happy first.POF chick flaked on our date and didn't give a counter offer. Nexting her...
I'm kind of mad about it, cause I have nothing to do on a Saturday night now. I don't have many friends. My only friend I had that would hit bars with me went to rehab for drinking. Now I'm going to be sitting home on my only night where I can actually go out and do something.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm so glad that you learned this. It's hard to self-analyze. This should explain a lot.I found out that I'm still to shy when it comes to approaching.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.