Yes, I amare you white, young og?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yes, I amare you white, young og?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Whats funny is she told me she doesn't really want marriage or kids. She said she was just looking for someone normal to hang out with and bang lol. I'll pm you the message I use.That's wasup. Keep her on the team. Don't wife though. Btw what was your first message to her? Do you send the same message to every chick or do you mix it up.
Thanks. You reaffirmed my choice to next her. I have another pof date set up for Saturday. I think there is a good chance she won't flake, but you never know about these women nowadays. Stay tuned...Good ****.
If you were Chris Brown she wouldn't have done that to you so screw her. If your going to deal with a chick deal with 100% co-operation.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That sounds like me from back in the day lol. I would next chicks over the slightest things lol. Now that I have more women in rotation, I have more patience which I think is good for longer term relationships (even if they aren't monogamous). I think that once you get more girls in rotation, you can let stuff like that slide. For me, when girls fvck up, they get dropped to the bottom of the pile but they can still be in the rotation on a slow night or they don't make it a habit.Thanks. You reaffirmed my choice to next her. I have another pof date set up for Saturday. I think there is a good chance she won't flake, but you never know about these women nowadays. Stay tuned...
Maybe I was being a little harsh nexting her so quickly. I'm not going to go back on it though. If I broke no contact now, it would make me look weak. Since she wasn't my type and not hot enough for me, it was easy to next her.That sounds like me from back in the day lol. I would next chicks over the slightest things lol. Now that I have more women in rotation, I have more patience which I think is good for longer term relationships (even if they aren't monogamous). I think that once you get more girls in rotation, you can let stuff like that slide. For me, when girls fvck up, they get dropped to the bottom of the pile but they can still be in the rotation on a slow night or they don't make it a habit.
create something useful. put your brain to work. yeah, flakes suck, but the whole point of being a DJ is that you know how to make yourself happy first.POF chick flaked on our date and didn't give a counter offer. Nexting her...
I'm kind of mad about it, cause I have nothing to do on a Saturday night now. I don't have many friends. My only friend I had that would hit bars with me went to rehab for drinking. Now I'm going to be sitting home on my only night where I can actually go out and do something.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm so glad that you learned this. It's hard to self-analyze. This should explain a lot.I found out that I'm still to shy when it comes to approaching.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.