Yes, I amare you white, young og?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yes, I amare you white, young og?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Whats funny is she told me she doesn't really want marriage or kids. She said she was just looking for someone normal to hang out with and bang lol. I'll pm you the message I use.That's wasup. Keep her on the team. Don't wife though. Btw what was your first message to her? Do you send the same message to every chick or do you mix it up.
Thanks. You reaffirmed my choice to next her. I have another pof date set up for Saturday. I think there is a good chance she won't flake, but you never know about these women nowadays. Stay tuned...Good ****.
If you were Chris Brown she wouldn't have done that to you so screw her. If your going to deal with a chick deal with 100% co-operation.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sounds like me from back in the day lol. I would next chicks over the slightest things lol. Now that I have more women in rotation, I have more patience which I think is good for longer term relationships (even if they aren't monogamous). I think that once you get more girls in rotation, you can let stuff like that slide. For me, when girls fvck up, they get dropped to the bottom of the pile but they can still be in the rotation on a slow night or they don't make it a habit.Thanks. You reaffirmed my choice to next her. I have another pof date set up for Saturday. I think there is a good chance she won't flake, but you never know about these women nowadays. Stay tuned...
Maybe I was being a little harsh nexting her so quickly. I'm not going to go back on it though. If I broke no contact now, it would make me look weak. Since she wasn't my type and not hot enough for me, it was easy to next her.That sounds like me from back in the day lol. I would next chicks over the slightest things lol. Now that I have more women in rotation, I have more patience which I think is good for longer term relationships (even if they aren't monogamous). I think that once you get more girls in rotation, you can let stuff like that slide. For me, when girls fvck up, they get dropped to the bottom of the pile but they can still be in the rotation on a slow night or they don't make it a habit.
create something useful. put your brain to work. yeah, flakes suck, but the whole point of being a DJ is that you know how to make yourself happy first.POF chick flaked on our date and didn't give a counter offer. Nexting her...
I'm kind of mad about it, cause I have nothing to do on a Saturday night now. I don't have many friends. My only friend I had that would hit bars with me went to rehab for drinking. Now I'm going to be sitting home on my only night where I can actually go out and do something.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I'm so glad that you learned this. It's hard to self-analyze. This should explain a lot.I found out that I'm still to shy when it comes to approaching.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.