You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
As I consider myself extraordinarily intelligent, I place a high value on intelligence, probably much more so than the typical man. For the woman's physique, I'm old school, and like a good hourglass figure. As for ethnicity, I like White.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So what keeps you from finding that girl? I can see it would be hard to find highly intelligent women. I don't consider any woman smarter than i am. There's a reason most aren't cut out for science/math careers.
Decades of mistaking everything we hear
My fave show. Babes, boats, and dudes with attitude.
I know exactly within a range of the type of girl I'm into, and I will not stop until I get what I want. If that means I have to keep getting more and more aggressive, then so be it.
I'm going to treat people the same way they treat me. There's nothing more important to me then living life on my terms. You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How is your SMV higher, what did you change? Job??
Even though men and women have equal intelligence on average, there are far more highly intelligent men than highly intelligent women. Women occupy the meat of the bell curve, while the tails are mostly men, and the extreme outliers on both ends are like 99.99% men.
I have improved many areas of my life:
the social skills are great to learn for sure.