"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The type of girl you want?

MatureDJ

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This post isnt for the masses to debate what the best girl looks like or how she acts. What works for you might not work for me. It's pointless to debate, so please refrain.

This post is to ask the simple question....are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?

For me, yes I have a solid girl. She has a great mind, good looks, and is young. We get along very well. She definitely looks up to me.

I wasnt always capable of getting a girl with a solid mind and good looks, but these days my SMV is a lot higher so it makes it easier to get the total package.
As I consider myself extraordinarily intelligent, I place a high value on intelligence, probably much more so than the typical man. For the woman's physique, I'm old school, and like a good hourglass figure. As for ethnicity, I like White.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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As I consider myself extraordinarily intelligent, I place a high value on intelligence, probably much more so than the typical man. For the woman's physique, I'm old school, and like a good hourglass figure. As for ethnicity, I like White.
So what keeps you from finding that girl? I can see it would be hard to find highly intelligent women. I don't consider any woman smarter than i am. There's a reason most aren't cut out for science/math careers.
 

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This post isnt for the masses to debate what the best girl looks like or how she acts. What works for you might not work for me. It's pointless to debate, so please refrain.

This post is to ask the simple question....are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?
I know exactly within a range of the type of girl I'm into, and I will not stop until I get what I want. If that means I have to keep getting more and more aggressive, then so be it.

I'm having fun with my pursuits too, including p!ssing some off here:lol: I'm going to treat people the same way they treat me. There's nothing more important to me then living life on my terms.


3:25 mark



Smart girl with a cute personality


A bit of a nut, makes her interesting

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZOTIr7qidc&list=PLKISr2lXXUbZD1gMyuWnR_ye_R1258t_c&index=37

My celebrity crush
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So what keeps you from finding that girl? I can see it would be hard to find highly intelligent women. I don't consider any woman smarter than i am. There's a reason most aren't cut out for science/math careers.
Even though men and women have equal intelligence on average, there are far more highly intelligent men than highly intelligent women. Women occupy the meat of the bell curve, while the tails are mostly men, and the extreme outliers on both ends are like 99.99% men.

So this means if you're a highly intelligent guy the odds of finding a woman on your level is hard, but it's possible. I mean I know of several male scientists who have married female scientists and that's kind of typical. So it would probably help to be in a field that isn't completely male-dominated.

I don't really know why anyone would prioritize this though. I mean I don't think anyone wants to date a dumb person but out of all the character traits, intelligence doesn't seem as important as something like open mindedness, empathy, self awareness, accountability, etc.

Having said that, I do find the conversations with intelligent women much more enjoyable and interesting, and it's easier to relate to them.
 
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How is your SMV higher, what did you change? Job??
I have improved many areas of my life:
-Understand women better
-Greater social skills
-Improved Physique
-Changed careers(nothing wrong with my old career, but new one sounds more impressive)
-More money(however, they don't know I have money until they have been to my house and I delay that. My property records aren't public either).

I spent a lot of years hanging out in bars and socializing with men and women. Thats probably the greatest contribution to my success.
 
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