Point taken and understood. I resumed NC after this one and only hoover attempt. As I mentioned, her brother contacted me saying that she broke her neck in a car accident. I talked to him for details, wondering if she was permanently out of commission, but he lives in a different country and he's not terribly bright so I simply said "Well, hope she is fine" and that was that. She contacted me the next morning via instant messaging service, told me what happened. She started spewing out how she missed me and how her new BF sucks and how she doesn't love him. I got sh!tty with her, told her I don't care and not to contact me nor let her family members contact me (among some other nasty things I said). She finished off by saying how I'm an a$$hole and how her new BF is the greatest thing in the world. And, lastly, "Goodbye forever"jophil28 said:Why do you maintain contact with that creature ?
IF I had a tumor cut out I doubt that I would want to keep it in a glass jar.
A good example of idealization and devaluation. Which was my point.