Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I hate to say this but your mentality will only get you used. You need to focus on you. You are living the disney fantacy in your head and it will get you used and friendzoned every time. Focus on Fixing and helping and feeding you. Not her. Who cares if she doesn't have enough money for food and stuff. Women use you and play dirty. When you try to be the white night you get soiled.Feel bad and regret that all the times spent together were wasted and feel that many more good times could be created in the future. Enjoyed the time spent together as i felt that she was my lover my friend and my other self that i could share all good things with. Feel like she was mine in heart and soul. All the laughs and joy we shared feel eternal and unforgettable all the hugging and nights shared together that I can never get back. Reason why I want to share this with her is because I miss her and want her to know that.
Want to call her and ask if she needs me to order food for her in case she doesn’t have any more money… Want to ask how she’s doing and if she’s ok…. Tell her i’m worried because she’s working late and has to get a driver to come pick her up…
Feel regret and miss the comfort and consistency of the relationship. Miss the late night calls and sleeping together while the call is ongoing
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
The remedy has been found boysHitting it up with a new chick hotter than my ex. The pain doesn’t seem as obvious anymore…
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
This was me when I was bluepilled. Totally felt helpless and even got flu symptoms because I didn’t sleep much and my heart was racing. It was the first time I was this invested in a girl and the breakup was just unfathomable.This is so toxic it isnt allowing me to sleep. I barely manage to fall asleep but I wake up after 3-4 hours and then my brain keeps on thinking what do I do? It's day 2 of breakup and no contact.
True but it’s hard to constantly remind yourself. Sometimes I wish it weren’t so, that this one is different or maybe that I should be different. Yeah no, time will heal this. Biggest lesson I learned from this is I should always be spinning plates oneitis is real and it’s ****ed up. Can’t believe I got oneitis at the age of 26 also after having had sex with over 40 women.This was me when I was bluepilled. Totally felt helpless and even got flu symptoms because I didn’t sleep much and my heart was racing. It was the first time I was this invested in a girl and the breakup was just unfathomable.
It gets easier if you cut all contact with her, keep yourself busy. I wasn’t able to focus at work so I just kept going on dates that I got from the apps. That’s where I learnt more about women’s nature and then got redpilled once I read Rollo’s books.
I got oneitis when I was 18, 30 and now 44. Meeting orher women and knowing your value are solutions.True but it’s hard to constantly remind yourself. Sometimes I wish it weren’t so, that this one is different or maybe that I should be different. Yeah no, time will heal this. Biggest lesson I learned from this is I should always be spinning plates oneitis is real and it’s ****ed up. Can’t believe I got oneitis at the age of 26 also after having had sex with over 40 women.
Too be honest. Isn't getting oneitis part of life and what most of us brought here in the first place? I got oneitis when i was 18 25 and atm at 29. But everytime i got better afterwards and i get better girls, even though it really really sucks after the breakup. But for me, its really hard too not get complacent when life gets tough, but everytime i got complacent, i got dumped. So i am working on that, although i do question sometimes if its ever really possible too never be complacent again and always spin plates. Life gets in the way sometimes, all about acceptance for me.I got oneitis when I was 18, 30 and now 44. Meeting orher women and knowing your value are solutions.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
Just hang up.After one month of no contact she calls me at 4:30 AM saying she’s drunk and wants to talk to me. ( Calls me from her friends phone bcs i blocked her everywhere) Got pissed, woke up told her there’s nothing to talk about, we are not getting back together. She’s all like no I’m happy rn blah blah i just wanna talk to you, can hear bitchy friend in the background saying ****. Bang i hang up. Get call back minute later, “why are u so rude i just wanna talk to you blah blah drunk talk. So i say go ahead talk. Random bla bla so i tell her look u wanna talk, call back when you’re sober. Get this, she says she’s not drunk proceeds to ask her friend i only drank 2 ****tails right? hear them laughing so i get tired hang up again. And block the friends number. She starts sending me text messages “Please i just want to talk” “Please pick up” I mute the chat and go back to sleep. (No idea how she managed to contact me on whatsapl, clearly remember blocking her )
Afterwerds find out she already tried calling me like 30 times that night through whatsapp.
Anyway, I got over her already since a few days ago. After this drunk call even more so. Feels good. Honestly i dont even know what I saw in her. Girls like these arent relationship material.
At this stage I kind of pity her, she’s going down the drain and even though I dont want to get back together with her, I somehow feel responsible.
Obviously, but now I see she changed her number. Trying to contact me again. Get this, now she’s telling me that she’s been meeting guys way better than me but she just can’t seem to talk to them because all she thinks about is me. Trying to make me jealous? LmaoJust hang up.
She ended up asking me out for a drink, because she didnt like how things ended between us. One drink led to another and..Obviously, but now I see she changed her number. Trying to contact me again. Get this, now she’s telling me that she’s been meeting guys way better than me but she just can’t seem to talk to them because all she thinks about is me. Trying to make me jealous? Lmao
When someone tells you they do not want to be with you, believe them. Let her go and move on.I got dumped a week ago after a 6 month relationship... via text. Was gutted. I was out with friends when it occurred. Texted back and forth, then blocked, after trying to end amicably. My heart was broken.
Relented, unblocked a few days later when my head was together, just wanted to reiterate the amicable ending. She offered the cliched 'lets be friends'. Said I would like that. Two days later, she texted me, said she was thinking about me, and a side health issue, she would support me visiting the doctor, and we could have a drink and talk later. Thanked her for that.
Thinking of texting her Tuesday, for a catch-up Thursday, just to see the reaction. If I get brushed off, well, then, thats it.
I know that this breaks the 'no-contact rule', however, I really did fall for this woman.
I also do agree with you here.THE NO CONTACT CHALLENGE - Daydream Enginner
Hey Guys and girls,
Let's start the No Contact Challenge. This has personally helped me 2 years ago, and i have seen many members asking for "how to get my ex back", and after breakup questions. The idea is a simple one, for 60 days, you will not talk or communicate with the girl that bazooka your heart. In any way, form, or communication, and every time you feel like saying something to her, you will write what you were going to tell her, AND/OR why you want to contact her, in this thread instead. This has been field tested by me, and it works from selling your soul to the she-devil.
You are going to do No Contact for yourself, you need to get away from here and move on. You will feel a transformation at the end of your challenge, and the ex that broke your heart, won't be a parasite in your mind anymore. You might even get your ex's attraction back, but you will be busy thinking about other girls to give her a second chance.
Let's begin,
Here are the rules:
1. First of all, before you do anything, read these articles:
The "Just Got Dumped" GUIDE
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155594
The Ultimate Break Up Guide…
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=38886
and....
No Contact - The Guide
...continued.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.