Grinderman
Banned
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- Feb 13, 2021
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Just like your life is better without the weed robbing your energy and polluting your soul, you're improving your life by leaving this female in your rearview mirror (bit of Pearl Jam "say things so much clearer, once you were in my rearview mirror". The weed is a distant memory just like she is slowly becoming. Burning in the embers of the past.I don't believe in 30, 60 or whatever days of no contact. I think we all should be implementing indefinite no contact. I mean, do you guys want to be friends or keep them as plates? If you can handle it more power to you but imo it will get complicated and messy at some point.
If you want them back then that's different. Let them reach out and go from there.
But the answer is to move on, focus on yourself and let them go. I know when its fresh and for sometime after that its hard but it does get a lot better and time helps you realize they aren't what you need in life. After all, if they were meant to be we wouldn't break up in the first place.
Stay strong guys. For me its been nearly 5 months of no contact. Feels great, yes i still think about her occasionally but i did live with her for 4 years and she did mess with my head for sometime after we split, so I'd like to think its normal. But i have no intention of ever contacting her again. I don't expect to ever hear from her again but then again who knows. I don't really care anymore.
Scarily similar situation to yourself. The focus on your self, let them go is spot on. Look more through the windscreen focusing on where we are going with laser vision and determination, rather than looking at the rearview mirror, is the essence of letting go and moving on.