The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Viento]

I did the dumping about two months ago and just realized it had been that long. All my other exe's have sent me xmas good wishes but this one. Hmm it's better this way.

 

[Reykhel]

I did the dumping about two months ago and just realized it had been that long. All my other exe's have sent me xmas good wishes but this one. Hmm it's better this way.

Really? All of your ex's sent you Christmas good wishes??!!!

How many? Through what medium?

So the ones that dump you stay in contact months, years later? But not this one...

 

[xstang77]

None of mine do unless there currently trying to Fvck me,I sent my ex one to screw with her just wishing her daughter a merry Christmas and that I missed her daughter,didn't mention her and didn't hear anything back lol her loss.

 

[TheGambino]

She told me she's not ready what means not ready ever for me after 2 succesfull dates and 1 major f8ck up at the club last saturday.

I need to move on and not contact her.

26-12-2016

Day one of no contact.

 

[Jediknight888]

I was at Day 16.... my story is f'd and complicated. To sum it up... I'm married. I seperated from my wife and dated this girl for about a month but we had worked together for about 7 months so the feelings were already there.

Anyway she dumped me BC she wasnt over her abusive BF..... a few weeks later my wife wanted to start dating again so I did. My wife is the better catch out of the 2 for a lot of reasons.

But this girl insisted on ending things badly. She took the nuclear option and just caused a bunch of drama. For months I would try to check in, say hi, say I hope all is well and just try to stay in contact BC I did really like her, but she would respond with venom.

To this day I don't understand it. In the end it is her loss. My wife and I are having our 2nd child in April. I did email this girl xmas eve (broke my 16 day NC). I just said hi I hope all is well. I just wanted to see how things were going and wish you a merry xmas. Still no response. Which is typical. That's basically been the protocol since she found out my wife was pregnant.

It's like she dumped me in the rudest f'ing way and then it was like she was mad at me for getting back with my wife a few months afterwards. Like WTF? Were you expecting me to wait for you? When she found out my wife was pregnant it's been radio silence.

I can't help for feeling bad about how it ended but it wasn't my doing. So her loss. Off to better things.

 

[BeTheChange]

Ex sent me a personalised Christmas message, which was weird given she'd blocked me two weeks ago for no apparent reason. I ignored them. Was having too good a day to bother responding.

Ex sent me another message today of an inside joke picture. Didn't reply. Haven't spoken in nearly two weeks and don't intend to.

I don't think I can have a truly "fulfilling" relationship with another chick until I flush out my ex completely. 60 days shouldn't be a problem.

Looking forward to seeing two of my new plates when I head back to my city later this week. The great thing about them is they are both so different from each other, excite me for different reasons and have their own little quirks and eccentricities.

 

[Roober]

I was at Day 16.... my story is f'd and complicated. To sum it up... I'm married. I seperated from my wife and dated this girl for about a month but we had worked together for about 7 months so the feelings were already there.

Anyway she dumped me BC she wasnt over her abusive BF..... a few weeks later my wife wanted to start dating again so I did. My wife is the better catch out of the 2 for a lot of reasons.

But this girl insisted on ending things badly. She took the nuclear option and just caused a bunch of drama. For months I would try to check in, say hi, say I hope all is well and just try to stay in contact BC I did really like her, but she would respond with venom.

To this day I don't understand it. In the end it is her loss. My wife and I are having our 2nd child in April. I did email this girl xmas eve (broke my 16 day NC). I just said hi I hope all is well. I just wanted to see how things were going and wish you a merry xmas. Still no response. Which is typical. That's basically been the protocol since she found out my wife was pregnant.

It's like she dumped me in the rudest f'ing way and then it was like she was mad at me for getting back with my wife a few months afterwards. Like WTF? Were you expecting me to wait for you? When she found out my wife was pregnant it's been radio silence.

I can't help for feeling bad about how it ended but it wasn't my doing. So her loss. Off to better things.

Not sure why you care since you are reconciling with the wife? And she is preggo...

 

[xstang77]

Not sure why you care since you are reconciling with the wife? And she is preggo...

This. I agree she was just a side fling really,it's not like you have nothing, you have a wife and kid forget the *****.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

no contact works excellent indeed, except when you have a 2 year old son with the chick you still have a crush on! hahahaah

 

[DamnSon]

My ex sent me a text 3. Days ago asking me how I was but nothing on a in Christmas ****INg ****

 

[Chev.Chelios]

My ex sent me a text 3. Days ago asking me how I was but nothing on a in Christmas ****INg ****

what? lol

 

[Carpathian]

I was at Day 16.... my story is f'd and complicated. To sum it up... I'm married. I seperated from my wife and dated this girl for about a month but we had worked together for about 7 months so the feelings were already there.

Anyway she dumped me BC she wasnt over her abusive BF..... a few weeks later my wife wanted to start dating again so I did. My wife is the better catch out of the 2 for a lot of reasons.

But this girl insisted on ending things badly. She took the nuclear option and just caused a bunch of drama. For months I would try to check in, say hi, say I hope all is well and just try to stay in contact BC I did really like her, but she would respond with venom.

To this day I don't understand it. In the end it is her loss. My wife and I are having our 2nd child in April. I did email this girl xmas eve (broke my 16 day NC). I just said hi I hope all is well. I just wanted to see how things were going and wish you a merry xmas. Still no response. Which is typical. That's basically been the protocol since she found out my wife was pregnant.

It's like she dumped me in the rudest f'ing way and then it was like she was mad at me for getting back with my wife a few months afterwards. Like WTF? Were you expecting me to wait for you? When she found out my wife was pregnant it's been radio silence.

I can't help for feeling bad about how it ended but it wasn't my doing. So her loss. Off to better things.

Dude, You keep saying "it's her loss". Are you trying to convince us or convince yourself? Sounds like the latter to me. Put this woman behind you, try to forget about her and be 100% NC to her. I know it's hard but that is what you MUST do.

Also, you are reconciling with your wife, she is having your baby, and you seem to be pining for the b1atch who dumped you? Man, I question your priorities. Do you not want this baby and your wife? If you truly want to reconcile you should be welcoming the love of your wife with open arms and caring for her whilst she is pregnant. Or is there some serious problem there as well?
Get your priorities right dude.

 

[Carpathian]

Ex sent me a personalised Christmas message, which was weird given she'd blocked me two weeks ago for no apparent reason. I ignored them. Was having too good a day to bother responding.

Ex sent me another message today of an inside joke picture. Didn't reply. Haven't spoken in nearly two weeks and don't intend to.

I don't think I can have a truly "fulfilling" relationship with another chick until I flush out my ex completely. 60 days shouldn't be a problem.

Looking forward to seeing two of my new plates when I head back to my city later this week. The great thing about them is they are both so different from each other, excite me for different reasons and have their own little quirks and eccentricities.

@BeTheChange Is this the woman from summer who you said you were abusive to? Did you get back together?
I agree what you say, nevertheless. You have to have a good 60 days to flush out the evil toxins from the old relationship to start to make sense of a new woman and a new situation.

 

[Roober]

Holidays were rough, thought about her a lot. Been going over and over about how I should have been stronger and more alpha then, and things would have worked out differently. Can't get over the feeling that I threw away a good thing... I know she had some flags and things I didn't like, but I still feel like we had a good thing that could have gone the distance. The fact of the matter is she backed off and didn't communicate, therefore I never knew how to handle it. I handled it by getting more needy and bringing our relationship into question a couple times. Each time, I never got the answers I wanted, or we just didn't really talk about it.

I feel like now I have to accept that I made some mistakes and that was really the point of our relationship. To correct my behaviors and communicate better with women. There is nothing I can do or say that will make her want to come back...

 

[wonderer]

Day 10 of NC.

I was with the girl for 4 months. The first 3 months were great, she would buy me gifts, kino me, make time for me, could not sleep before seeing me, wished she could see me everyday. I played with her emotions, I would not speak to her for days. She started seeing someone else and went cold on me, she then started to insult me and told me about him, she blocked me. It was all my fault.

She then came back to me after he left for his home country, I was the plan B. I was kissing her again, I never slept with her because I thought she was a virgin, she told me about how she f*cked him. It killed me. I went a bit more beta to try and be different than before and learn from my mistakes, wed talk more, more on the phone rather than texting, id call her in the mornings to wake her up for classes, id see her more than once a week. She then said she wanted to be friends, massive out of the blue for me seeing as none of the actions pointed towards this - holding hands, head in chest, kissing.

I told her no, think about what you want, she was sure she wanted to be friends. Ive been NC since, havent heard anything. Spinning one plate, got a day 2 tomorrow. Need more plates, all I can think about is her though.

 

[Carpathian]

Happy New year to all. May it be the healthiest, happiest and most successful yet.

 

[MrOctober]

I've been NC for over 60 days and she's contacted me twice within that timeframe. She crosses my mind here and there but...

trust me dudes you will get over it. I used to think I never would.

 

[MrOctober]

Happy New year to all. May it be the healthiest, happiest and most successful yet.

To you the same.

 

[RoKKo]

Day 60

Some conclusions:
- After reading the bible i realized that she used me in every way to make herself feel better about herself. It never was a giving thing from her side. I was her toy, she was playing mind-games with me. She enchanted me while she was just looking for fun. I totally fell for it... This humiliation is the worst feeling i have experienced for at least a very long time.

- So much work to do. Every woman resembling to her gives me an itch right in my heart. I KNOW that this woman caused damage to my mental health and yet my heart STILL wants her back. This is the worst thing since she (I) am messing it up with other women forcing myself in bad mindsets and painful reconsiderations of "what-if" statements with her. I realize that my mind is tricking me. Still... it hurts.

- Deleting her number and everything that reminds me of her helped a lot for the healing process i am still in. I stopped (day)dreaming of her all the time and most of the time my mind is clear from her. While reading the Bible, i began questioning my behavior with every woman i had a relationship with. Sometimes i catch myself having a discussion as my future self and my ex(es) and the urge of having revenge rather than forgiving and going on with my better life. I should know better... Nevertheless, No Contact until i forgot her or i came over it. Even though i am curious about what she is doing.

-> Despite the pain: The breakup was the best thing that could happen to me for my life. It gave/gives me the energy of working on myself. Without it, i wouldn't have read the bible, never start working out and focusing on my dreams.

I think she will haunt me for a long while longer. However, I never felt manlier before. I admit my flaws and work on them every single day. Until the curse breaks.

 

[Carpathian]

@RoKKo Takes a long time to flush a woman you cherished (maybe cherished too much) out of your mind and out of your heart dude. Don't beat yourself up about it, those feelings are normal and to be expected. Rather, focus on the long game, get yourself sorted out in terms of style, body, career, education etc and develop those things. Your happiness will gravitate back together in time. But until you can leave the toxins from the ex in the toilet then it is difficult to make forward progress in your life. This is why you must get focused on other things, like everyone here says. This is the secret to happiness in all aspects of your life.