The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Carpathian]

That's really what it boils down to. You have to accept that she doesn't want you any more. Let her go...

Indeed.
Think this.... If a friend said he didn't like you anymore and said he didn't want to see you and gave you a whole ton of sh1t like your ex did, you'd tell him to fvkk off. Same with a business partner. Same with a colleague. Indeed, same with EVERY OTHER human connection. They give you sh1t = fvkk off. So, unfortunate as it is, if your GF says she needs space, time to think, confused, it's not you it's me, needs a break or any of that BS then tell her to get the hell out of your life (she will secretly respect you for that and this will give you options further down the line with her).

You are a MAN with a lot to offer a woman. She doesn't want you? Find a new woman who does. There are a million ways to meet a woman; day game, internet dating, sports etc. Might not happen next week or next month but eventually you will met her. Focus on YOU. Get working on yourself, your fitness, sports, your physique, your education, your career and do NOT put up with being seen as a second class man by your ex. She can fvkk off. It is her huge loss.

In the end, we will thank our exes for dumping us because it is an epiphany for your life, for YOU. But you must play a part in your own rescue. Try and purge her from your mind and soul.

 

[xstang77]

I left it off as understanding and cool just doesn't make sense this girl was good to me no bs in the time we were together then she just ends it coldly.would be easier if it were like another break up to where there was a fight or we grew apart in time etc. but this ****s just random.

 

[Roober]

"Self-estimation nevers happens spontaneously, there always has to be some crisis to prompt it."

Don't let this experience define us, let it shape our future and make us better men.

 

[Carpathian]

I left it off as understanding and cool just doesn't make sense this girl was good to me no bs in the time we were together then she just ends it coldly.would be easier if it were like another break up to where there was a fight or we grew apart in time etc. but this ****s just random.

All the more reason to NC her.

 

[DamnSon]

I'm in the same boat bros. day 8 or 9, Forgot. I havent looked at her social media at all, but she looks at all my snaps. (Me having a great time with other people) This wasnt a bad breakup either, the week before she was so loving, then cold. Really pulled the rug out. I wish it was a bad break up so I could be like ok **** this *****. I wish her the best though... but the fact you could throw me away? Loll OKAY there hun. She is young though, probably isn't ready for a big commitment, I just felt like I played it wrong, coulda kept her if I was cooler about stuff...

the holidays are coming up and she invited me to meet her whole family when we were together, I'm still hopin she reaches out and realizes the mistake she made, but whatever.

 

[DamnSon]

Liking my facebook posts now.. hm

 

[Jediknight888]

Day 10... it was getting better and better then for some reason today was harder than the last 4 or 5. I get this feeling that even if I go 60 this is still the girl I want.

I think the biggest problem is that we had a very short relationship and so I never got to see the bad side of her other than her dissappearing in the end. So it's like she's this perfect person in my head. I know she's not. But I never got the chance to get turned off by her flaws.

She has now deleted her FB. I don't know why this would be?

Anyway hang in there guys. On to day 11.

 

[xstang77]

Day 10... it was getting better and better then for some reason today was harder than the last 4 or 5. I get this feeling that even if I go 60 this is still the girl I want.

I think the biggest problem is that we had a very short relationship and so I never got to see the bad side of her other than her dissappearing in the end. So it's like she's this perfect person in my head. I know she's not. But I never got the chance to get turned off by her flaws.

She has now deleted her FB. I don't know why this would be?

Anyway hang in there guys. On to day 11.

This is my issue as well people rightfully suggest to focus on her flaws but **** I didn't find any that turned me off or bothered me aside from how heartlessly she abruptly ended it.

 

[Roober]

I hear ya guys. I have pondered this over the last couple days, and thought "well, the things I didn't like were so minor.." I was married, so I understand the dynamic that you are not going to like everything about your partner.

But the fact of the matter is... all of our exes are quitters! They didn't choose to communicate their issues, they didn't choose to work it out, the chose the simplest path... to merely leave us with our d**k in our hands. We all did the right things and were good men to these ladies. But unfortunately, we fell for women that are better off alone or going through multiple unhappy relationships. When you treat a girl well, and they basically display hypergamy, it is their loss, not yours!!!

Fortunately for us, we can take this experience and learn from it. We needed this crisis to correct the error of our ways. For them, they will do this to the next guy and the guy after him. Put yourself at ease, because she will end up 1 of 2 ways, unhappy with an AFC provider, or with an abusive relationship she is unable to walk away from...

I know how to treat women, and with using the DJ skills and everything in the book of pook, I am beginning to understand how important it is to find the right one. And the great part is? There is not just ONE right one, there are MANY...

Listen to all of the other stories on this message board... your lady was no different than a good majority of women out there!

 

[DamnSon]

Day 10... it was getting better and better then for some reason today was harder than the last 4 or 5. I get this feeling that even if I go 60 this is still the girl I want.

I think the biggest problem is that we had a very short relationship and so I never got to see the bad side of her other than her dissappearing in the end. So it's like she's this perfect person in my head. I know she's not. But I never got the chance to get turned off by her flaws.

She has now deleted her FB. I don't know why this would be?

Anyway hang in there guys. On to day 11.

Dude yes! Tonight is hard, she liked my FB status today and Idk why is that like a "hey I'm still here" thing? I was sure I'd get a text or something after that. Like a "hey" or "I miss you" maybe she's too chicken **** too reach out? Because she thinks I'll reject her? But if she wanted me back and realized she made a mistake I'm sure she'd do it. Missing her perfect skin and smile today boy am I. Guess I'll hit the beer

 

[DamnSon]

I was at the bar last night surrounded by a lot of hot chicks but it just made me more tired of the game and miss the moments I had with this chick. Didn't need all that, we would just go on adventures and love. Yeah the relationship was too short to notice any real flaws too. ****ing a

 

[BeTheChange]

I broke up with my ex on 18 July 2016, or rather she ghosted me once she had secured a new boyfriend.

During the first month I was at my lowest point ever. Depressed, loss of focus, confused, severe oneitis....she spat on my face, stabbed me in the back and p*ssed on my dead body and yet I still craved her. The joys of BPDs. It takes a break up to make you realise how weak you've become.

Fast forward a mere five months and I have just banged four women in the space of a week, the last one a smoking hot Italiana who is better than my ex in every tangible way.

I have another date tonight with a cute blonde who is also hotter (and has bigger t*ts) than my ex. Five months ago, everyday I woke up I was immediately hit with immense sadness and a deep sense of longing. Now everyday I wake up I do so with a massive grin on my face.

Every facet of my life is better than when I was with my ex and better still, she knows this. The best revenge really is a live well lived.

Knowledge is power. Rather you learn the hard way, than not at all. And I would recommend taking some time to address some of the underlying issues that brought you to this point.

Trust me boys. It WILL get better. It WILL get easier. And you WILL emerge from this experience as better men.

 

[5chm1dd1]

I broke up with my ex on 18 July 2016, or rather she ghosted me once she had secured a new boyfriend.

During the first month I was at my lowest point ever. Depressed, loss of focus, confused, severe oneitis....she spat on my face, stabbed me in the back and p*ssed on my dead body and yet I still craved her. The joys of BPDs. It takes a break up to make you realise how weak you've become.

Fast forward a mere five months and I have just banged four women in the space of a week, the last one a smoking hot Italiana who is better than my ex in every tangible way.

I have another date tonight with a cute blonde who is also hotter (and has bigger t*ts) than my ex. Five months ago, everyday I woke up I was immediately hit with immense sadness and a deep sense of longing. Now everyday I wake up I do so with a massive grin on my face.

Knowledge is power. Rather you learn the hard way, than not at all. And I would recommend taking some time to address some of the underlying issues that brought you to this point.

Trust me boys. It WILL get better. It WILL get easier. And you WILL emerge from this experience as better men.

It's been almost 4 months since my Breakup, work on myself is continuing, but I'm still far away from forgetting her, or giving up hope and the longing.

As far as I can tell, it's simply because it was my first relationship, so I guess it just takes some more time. At least, I hope so.

 

[RoKKo]

Day 50

No reach-out from here till now. I am glad she don't try it. Actually i dont know how I would react if she reaches out. The constant thinking of her stopped after i met/talked/missed chances to meet awesome women. I realized how broken this woman is and how magnificantly manipulated me (scary, i tell you). Slowly i change my attitude towards life and towards myself. Sure i still have trouble and problems with things and my behaviour towards specific situations - whatever. This f*ckn planet still spins around and slowly i become the man i deserve to be. I seem to stop denying to myself who i really am.
The most provoking thought i had was seeing myself as a wanderer in a magical world, travelling the world and observing the landscape and with it many beautiful flowers, here known as women. Whenever i am afraid of talking to a woman or remembering back to my ex, i notice the desireful drag of picking this beautiful and paticular flower, making it (and i.e. their scenct) mine. As if there wont be any more beautiful flowers around in this huge wide world... But when I do that, it will end in that flower dying, and with it a part of myself dies, too. Of course i am a beginner in learning the DJ way of life, but my actual task here is seeing myself as part of the magical world and thus learing to use magic to arouse some flowers to life showing it the world that I travel. It is the wanderer who is able to see the world. It is the magic of the wanderer who makes flowers want to travel with him. It is me, who decides the route. It is me who decides whether the flowers will return to their roots or stays with me for a while longer. It is my responsibility to withstand the desire to pluck the flower even tough the scenct of the flowers becomes stronger as it runs around me and tries to impress me so that they can travel a little while longer.

 

[Roober]

Day 40 (or so)

Been thinking about her a lot the last couple days. Wanting to reach out... I just keep hearing all these horror stories from you guys about ex this, ex that, and she really wasn't any of that... She treated me well, she was fun to spend time with, she did most of the contact, when we were together, she never gave me any sort of inclination of other dudes, everything was solid. I could only see her every two weeks, but that is because she is a single mommy. She has a good strong family, solid job, not a gold digger in any way. Most of the crap I didn't like isn't really big things (i.e. sleeping in, selfies, etc.)

Been feeling more like I had a good one and just totally muffed it up, and it is eating at me... Talking to other women definitely helps, but I just can't get this feeling out that wants me to reach out and try to figure it out and see if there is still a chance... When she decided to break it off, I was working on this DJ thing and trying to be aloof, so I didn't really get any answers. I was "playing it cool" and acting like "fine, if that's what you want, I am not going to stop you". I suppose that is what bugs me the most, that feeling like I lost a good one...

I guess I just have to wait and continue to do my thing...

 

[Jediknight888]

Day 40 (or so)

Been thinking about her a lot the last couple days. Wanting to reach out... I just keep hearing all these horror stories from you guys about ex this, ex that, and she really wasn't any of that... She treated me well, she was fun to spend time with, she did most of the contact, when we were together, she never gave me any sort of inclination of other dudes, everything was solid. I could only see her every two weeks, but that is because she is a single mommy. She has a good strong family, solid job, not a gold digger in any way. Most of the crap I didn't like isn't really big things (i.e. sleeping in, selfies, etc.)

Been feeling more like I had a good one and just totally muffed it up, and it is eating at me... Talking to other women definitely helps, but I just can't get this feeling out that wants me to reach out and try to figure it out and see if there is still a chance... When she decided to break it off, I was working on this DJ thing and trying to be aloof, so I didn't really get any answers. I was "playing it cool" and acting like "fine, if that's what you want, I am not going to stop you". I suppose that is what bugs me the most, that feeling like I lost a good one...

I guess I just have to wait and continue to do my thing...

Maybe you did have a good one. I would say if you reach out and she acts interested go for it. I think most guys are on here (at least I am) BC the girl I was in to showed interest for a short while but then went back to a guy that was abusive. It was/is hard for me to understand considering that I am a good catch and was great to her. It sounds like you know what you did wrong. If you want her in your life and she wants you in hers then there's nothing standing in your way.

 

[DamnSon]

Day 40 (or so)

Been thinking about her a lot the last couple days. Wanting to reach out... I just keep hearing all these horror stories from you guys about ex this, ex that, and she really wasn't any of that... She treated me well, she was fun to spend time with, she did most of the contact, when we were together, she never gave me any sort of inclination of other dudes, everything was solid. I could only see her every two weeks, but that is because she is a single mommy. She has a good strong family, solid job, not a gold digger in any way. Most of the crap I didn't like isn't really big things (i.e. sleeping in, selfies, etc.)

Been feeling more like I had a good one and just totally muffed it up, and it is eating at me... Talking to other women definitely helps, but I just can't get this feeling out that wants me to reach out and try to figure it out and see if there is still a chance... When she decided to break it off, I was working on this DJ thing and trying to be aloof, so I didn't really get any answers. I was "playing it cool" and acting like "fine, if that's what you want, I am not going to stop you". I suppose that is what bugs me the most, that feeling like I lost a good one...

I guess I just have to wait and continue to do my thing...

same with my ex dude, but she broke up with me. Why? I did everything pretty good, besides getting a little bit controlling, but I pulled it back. She was ALLLL about me. No horror story or manipulative behavior, she was an easy, sweet go with the flow kinda girl. She liked my FB post yesterday, nothing today. Maybe she's throwing up feelers to see if she still has me. I'm definitely not reaching out though

 

[DamnSon]

Pretty sure she's out to date with the new guy she's been ****ing. How can we even care about these girls that could dump us and move on like it wasn't anything? Bitches **** wm

 

[Jediknight888]

same with my ex dude, but she broke up with me. Why? I did everything pretty good, besides getting a little bit controlling, but I pulled it back. She was ALLLL about me. No horror story or manipulative behavior, she was an easy, sweet go with the flow kinda girl. She liked my FB post yesterday, nothing today. Maybe she's throwing up feelers to see if she still has me. I'm definitely not reaching out though

Day 11. I have a question.

The girl I'm in NC with at the moment is

 

[Jediknight888]

NC Day 12: So I know I'm doing this to get over her.... and I am. However, I think we all are also doing NC BC we want them to contact us. It seems like most guys on here do get contact from these women at some point. On average how long did it take? I know I'm not supposed to care and honestly, I don't even know if I'd reply, but for some reason I'd like to see if she is even bothered by NC.