"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
I am a new person here.
I need some advice on my relationship that recently hit the rocks.
I have this lady I ma inlove with but had to break off the relationship with her because of her continuous flirting with other guys and shoving it in my face.
I hadn't spoken to her in two weeks since the breakup and then out of the blue she suddenly calls me.
I still love her a lot cause we had some good times together and were even planning marriage till I broke everything off.
Her call has brought back a lot of emotions and I know I still love her a lot.
What do I do?
Please advice...
Thanks.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Read and post in the NO Contact thread.Pumbaa said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Purefilth
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scroll down, links at the bottomResistanttochange said:
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Purefilth
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There ya go BraddAzu said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Purefilth
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just trying to help the Lads.Red n Blue
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How do they compare to one another? Are they similar or completely different beasts?
Purefilth
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Different, but a lot of Pooks posts are included in the Bible.MusicManMike said:
Thundernuts
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AmenUpside said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
cervantesscthree
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Nice work Des
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diablo
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Which was true until about... now. This re-vamped DJB looks pretty sweet, and the layout is a lot easier to browse through than the old. Though what's most important is CONTENT...Desdinova said:
I've been offline for 5+ years because what I read (cough: Pook... Gio...) 'effing WORKS. It's the most solid advice anyone could read. Though I have 5 years of new posts to catch up on, so I'd better get started...
Des, again, awesome job carrying the banner. I'm stoked that SS is still here, and glad to be a part of it again. Especially now that I'm in need of refresher courses (yeah, LTR's suck when they stop happening).
Diablo
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.