You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Read and post in the NO Contact thread.Pumbaa said:Hi guys,
I am a new person here.
I need some advice on my relationship that recently hit the rocks.
I have this lady I ma inlove with but had to break off the relationship with her because of her continuous flirting with other guys and shoving it in my face.
I hadn't spoken to her in two weeks since the breakup and then out of the blue she suddenly calls me.
I still love her a lot cause we had some good times together and were even planning marriage till I broke everything off.
Her call has brought back a lot of emotions and I know I still love her a lot.
What do I do?
Please advice...
Thanks.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
scroll down, links at the bottomResistanttochange said:Where is the new djbible? I am new here, I can't find the new or old djbible.
There ya go BraddAzu said:Hello Don Juans,
I am the original poster of The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped).
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160056
I posted the No Contact challenge thread around the day before my 19th or 20th birthday when I got dump by an ex-girlfriend who i believed at the time I would have never gotten over her. I thought she was my whole life, and that I would have never find someone like her. Now, I barely even think of her at all.
I had the unfortunate dilemma of being banned from Sosuave a couple of years ago for spreading a copyrighted book via PM or something of that nature.
I just wanted to say a big thank you to everyone here at Sosuave who have passed the No Contact Challenge and to all those who gave great advice in that thread. It is an honor to have a thread sicked at Sosuave.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Different, but a lot of Pooks posts are included in the Bible.MusicManMike said:Awesome, I've read the Book of Pook but never the DJ Bible, I'll get cracking!
How do they compare to one another? Are they similar or completely different beasts?
AmenUpside said:Holy balls. Book of Pook is 265 pages long. That alone is probably all the information a guy will need to succeed.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Which was true until about... now. This re-vamped DJB looks pretty sweet, and the layout is a lot easier to browse through than the old. Though what's most important is CONTENT...Desdinova said:...and Diablo hasn't been on the site in five years.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.