You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Read and post in the NO Contact thread.Pumbaa said:Hi guys,
I am a new person here.
I need some advice on my relationship that recently hit the rocks.
I have this lady I ma inlove with but had to break off the relationship with her because of her continuous flirting with other guys and shoving it in my face.
I hadn't spoken to her in two weeks since the breakup and then out of the blue she suddenly calls me.
I still love her a lot cause we had some good times together and were even planning marriage till I broke everything off.
Her call has brought back a lot of emotions and I know I still love her a lot.
What do I do?
Please advice...
Thanks.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
scroll down, links at the bottomResistanttochange said:Where is the new djbible? I am new here, I can't find the new or old djbible.
There ya go BraddAzu said:Hello Don Juans,
I am the original poster of The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped).
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160056
I posted the No Contact challenge thread around the day before my 19th or 20th birthday when I got dump by an ex-girlfriend who i believed at the time I would have never gotten over her. I thought she was my whole life, and that I would have never find someone like her. Now, I barely even think of her at all.
I had the unfortunate dilemma of being banned from Sosuave a couple of years ago for spreading a copyrighted book via PM or something of that nature.
I just wanted to say a big thank you to everyone here at Sosuave who have passed the No Contact Challenge and to all those who gave great advice in that thread. It is an honor to have a thread sicked at Sosuave.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Different, but a lot of Pooks posts are included in the Bible.MusicManMike said:Awesome, I've read the Book of Pook but never the DJ Bible, I'll get cracking!
How do they compare to one another? Are they similar or completely different beasts?
AmenUpside said:Holy balls. Book of Pook is 265 pages long. That alone is probably all the information a guy will need to succeed.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Which was true until about... now. This re-vamped DJB looks pretty sweet, and the layout is a lot easier to browse through than the old. Though what's most important is CONTENT...Desdinova said:...and Diablo hasn't been on the site in five years.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.