"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The New DJ Bible

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Archaic or not "Anti-Dump" machine provides a solid theory on dealing with women that is still very much applicable. Glad to see it maintained, though, I believe it's front page information. Than again I am not the one maintaining the bible and give you kudos for doing so.
 

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Hi guys,
I am a new person here.
I need some advice on my relationship that recently hit the rocks.
I have this lady I ma inlove with but had to break off the relationship with her because of her continuous flirting with other guys and shoving it in my face.
I hadn't spoken to her in two weeks since the breakup and then out of the blue she suddenly calls me.
I still love her a lot cause we had some good times together and were even planning marriage till I broke everything off.
Her call has brought back a lot of emotions and I know I still love her a lot.
What do I do?
Please advice...
Thanks.
 

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Pumbaa said:
Hi guys,
I am a new person here.
I need some advice on my relationship that recently hit the rocks.
I have this lady I ma inlove with but had to break off the relationship with her because of her continuous flirting with other guys and shoving it in my face.
I hadn't spoken to her in two weeks since the breakup and then out of the blue she suddenly calls me.
I still love her a lot cause we had some good times together and were even planning marriage till I broke everything off.
Her call has brought back a lot of emotions and I know I still love her a lot.
What do I do?
Please advice...
Thanks.
Read and post in the NO Contact thread.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Resistanttochange said:
Where is the new djbible? I am new here, I can't find the new or old djbible.
scroll down, links at the bottom
 

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Azu said:
Hello Don Juans,

I am the original poster of The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped).
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160056


I posted the No Contact challenge thread around the day before my 19th or 20th birthday when I got dump by an ex-girlfriend who i believed at the time I would have never gotten over her. I thought she was my whole life, and that I would have never find someone like her. Now, I barely even think of her at all.


I had the unfortunate dilemma of being banned from Sosuave a couple of years ago for spreading a copyrighted book via PM or something of that nature.

I just wanted to say a big thank you to everyone here at Sosuave who have passed the No Contact Challenge and to all those who gave great advice in that thread. It is an honor to have a thread sicked at Sosuave.
There ya go Bradd :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thanks :) just trying to help the Lads.
 
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Looks pretty good, maybe some posts to help social skills in general since I think that's a big part of it.
 

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Awesome, I've read the Book of Pook but never the DJ Bible, I'll get cracking!

How do they compare to one another? Are they similar or completely different beasts?
 

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MusicManMike said:
Awesome, I've read the Book of Pook but never the DJ Bible, I'll get cracking!

How do they compare to one another? Are they similar or completely different beasts?
Different, but a lot of Pooks posts are included in the Bible.
 

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Upside said:
Holy balls. Book of Pook is 265 pages long. That alone is probably all the information a guy will need to succeed.
Amen
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This is some damn good stuff, glad about the update. Brings back memories! This is my first post on the forum, but I've know about So Suave for a while and had the book of Pook for many years so it's good to see someone re-visiting the base material.

Nice work Des
 

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Looks good. Filled with nuggets of gold
 

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A small update... Whenever I come across a truly amazing post, I put the link in a file to potentially add to the DJ Bible. There isn't much in the file because the DJ Bible doesn't need much more to make it better. With my schedule looking a bit lighter for the coming year, I should be able to do an update.
 

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Desdinova said:
...and Diablo hasn't been on the site in five years.
Which was true until about... now. This re-vamped DJB looks pretty sweet, and the layout is a lot easier to browse through than the old. Though what's most important is CONTENT...

I've been offline for 5+ years because what I read (cough: Pook... Gio...) 'effing WORKS. It's the most solid advice anyone could read. Though I have 5 years of new posts to catch up on, so I'd better get started...

Des, again, awesome job carrying the banner. I'm stoked that SS is still here, and glad to be a part of it again. Especially now that I'm in need of refresher courses (yeah, LTR's suck when they stop happening).

Diablo
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

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