ThunderMaverick
Master Don Juan
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Hmm.. Maybe you have privileges over there that I don't. My "edit options" doesn't have the enable private messaging feature.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I was responding directly to the suggestion that the 'pro-man' posters can't get a girlfriend. How is that an 'infraction'? How many of the female posts are on-topic and relate directly to the original post only? How did Touche not break the rules with her inflammatory name-calling?Dear Towelie,
Link to your post:
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1590859
Reason for flagging:
Primary directive: Post does not relate directly to first post in thread
It is not necessary to give forum members your itinerary and is also very much off topic.
Best wishes,
Tony
For your reference, the post in question appears below:
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Originally Posted by Touche View Post
Effin' bunch of fools. No wonder they can't get a woman to save their lives. Sheesh!__________________I have a beautiful girlfriend and I'm going to join her in bed now. Goodnight everyone!
Tony
The threads are full of the females threatening to call the mods for 'offensive' posts. Did norajane receive a warning for calling me a misogynist? Like all the other posts demeaning the men who argued with them as having small cocks, mommy issues, pro-violence against women, etc? I doubt it.Dear Towelie,
Link to your post:
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1590848
Reason for flagging:
Civility & respect: Interact in a manner conducive to free-flowing, collaborative participation from all visitors, fostering an environment free of harassment, character attacks, and other forms of individual and group berating
Report posts which you feel are offensive BUT DON'T QUOTE THEM AND RESPOND TO THEM. This makes you part of the offensive, is inflammatory and extends the chaos. REPORT OFFENSIVE POSTS AND LET MODERATORS HANDLE THE MATTER. Thank you!
Best wishes,
Tony
For your reference, the post in question appears below:
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Originally Posted by norajane View Post
Every so often in the Shack of Love, a slew of new male posters arrives at pretty much the same time within a span of, like, a day. Suddenly, the Shack becomes filled with multiple new threads started by these very same posters.
And, oddly, all these new posters with all these new threads tend to have roughly the same complaints about the Shack, about women at the Shack, about women liking jerks and hating nice guys, about men not being real MEN and allowing women to treat them like doormats, about taking their power back from all these ball-busting women, about all the supposed male-bashing that goes on here...well, you get the idea. Just look at the new threads lately.
And then, just as suddenly, perhaps when the very busy mods notice that there's one IP addy for all 17 new identities, the posters disappear.
Thinly veiled misogynist rants in the guise of men frustrated while seeking help and advice? I know I have my opinion, but I'm one of those ball-busting *****es, so what do I know?I have reported your for calling me a misogynist.
What's really funny is this is NOT the case at all this time!And then, just as suddenly, perhaps when the very busy mods notice that there's one IP addy for all 17 new identities, the posters disappear.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Haha, EXACTLY.My Name is Nobody said:So is this place the equivilant of a female sosuave? Maybe I should check it out.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That beotch Trialbyfire called my man a peon and told him to get on his knees. I flagged her response as inappropriate, and was banned because my reply to her was "off topic." I guess technically I am not banned per se, but my posts are now sent to moderation before they will be allowed to be posted.You have been banned due to infractions.
Date the ban will be lifted: 26th April 2008, 7:29 AM
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.