You saved me from the lingering melodramatic swamp of LS
It served perhaps to kiss a few wounds temporarily but sooner or later, to be healthy, one has to progress, not stay in the sick bed. And those sites can keep you in a mind frame that's unproductive.
I recently revisited one of those "save your marriage" type sites I frequented a few *years* ago back when I went through my little breakup. Some of the same people were still there, still going over the same details, expounding them, that brought them there in the first place. STUCK is what they are.
Oh I posted my little "if I knew back then what I know now, this is what I would've done" and all I got was "makes a lot of sense, BUT..." and people wanting to stay stuck.
They want to be stuck. It's familiar for them, it's comfortable for them. And, noteworthy, is that it
keeps them emotionally tied to their ex, that person they loved and lost, that they cannot move from for if they do, they "lose" them forever, although that person is already far gone.
The bad advice doled out mostly serves to keep misery among its company.
On a side note, this is not what you want to turn out like: met an older dude a few years ago. His woman left him some years prior, she had moved on with her life and got a new man. But this poor guy... he tells me that he still believes that he and her are one, and that this union of he and her was divinely ordained and so, cannot be undone by virtue of the facts, and that he still considers her to be his sole wife and even has "conversations" with her where he knows they're still spiritually connected. IOW, this guy's flipped and deluded himself.
