ThunderMaverick
Master Don Juan
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Hmm.. Maybe you have privileges over there that I don't. My "edit options" doesn't have the enable private messaging feature.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I was responding directly to the suggestion that the 'pro-man' posters can't get a girlfriend. How is that an 'infraction'? How many of the female posts are on-topic and relate directly to the original post only? How did Touche not break the rules with her inflammatory name-calling?Dear Towelie,
Link to your post:
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1590859
Reason for flagging:
Primary directive: Post does not relate directly to first post in thread
It is not necessary to give forum members your itinerary and is also very much off topic.
Best wishes,
Tony
For your reference, the post in question appears below:
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Originally Posted by Touche View Post
Effin' bunch of fools. No wonder they can't get a woman to save their lives. Sheesh!__________________I have a beautiful girlfriend and I'm going to join her in bed now. Goodnight everyone!
Tony
The threads are full of the females threatening to call the mods for 'offensive' posts. Did norajane receive a warning for calling me a misogynist? Like all the other posts demeaning the men who argued with them as having small cocks, mommy issues, pro-violence against women, etc? I doubt it.Dear Towelie,
Link to your post:
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1590848
Reason for flagging:
Civility & respect: Interact in a manner conducive to free-flowing, collaborative participation from all visitors, fostering an environment free of harassment, character attacks, and other forms of individual and group berating
Report posts which you feel are offensive BUT DON'T QUOTE THEM AND RESPOND TO THEM. This makes you part of the offensive, is inflammatory and extends the chaos. REPORT OFFENSIVE POSTS AND LET MODERATORS HANDLE THE MATTER. Thank you!
Best wishes,
Tony
For your reference, the post in question appears below:
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Originally Posted by norajane View Post
Every so often in the Shack of Love, a slew of new male posters arrives at pretty much the same time within a span of, like, a day. Suddenly, the Shack becomes filled with multiple new threads started by these very same posters.
And, oddly, all these new posters with all these new threads tend to have roughly the same complaints about the Shack, about women at the Shack, about women liking jerks and hating nice guys, about men not being real MEN and allowing women to treat them like doormats, about taking their power back from all these ball-busting women, about all the supposed male-bashing that goes on here...well, you get the idea. Just look at the new threads lately.
And then, just as suddenly, perhaps when the very busy mods notice that there's one IP addy for all 17 new identities, the posters disappear.
Thinly veiled misogynist rants in the guise of men frustrated while seeking help and advice? I know I have my opinion, but I'm one of those ball-busting *****es, so what do I know?I have reported your for calling me a misogynist.
What's really funny is this is NOT the case at all this time!And then, just as suddenly, perhaps when the very busy mods notice that there's one IP addy for all 17 new identities, the posters disappear.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Haha, EXACTLY.My Name is Nobody said:So is this place the equivilant of a female sosuave? Maybe I should check it out.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That beotch Trialbyfire called my man a peon and told him to get on his knees. I flagged her response as inappropriate, and was banned because my reply to her was "off topic." I guess technically I am not banned per se, but my posts are now sent to moderation before they will be allowed to be posted.You have been banned due to infractions.
Date the ban will be lifted: 26th April 2008, 7:29 AM
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.