Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I've been playing the role of AFC, but there is some beeotch named Muse or something over there that insists that Nighthawk (Mr.Collector) and I (Dagger Kockburn) are the same person. Elor, I will respond to your thread right now with some AFC logic, and you can hit me back with some knowledge.mr_elor said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
mr_elor said:Magma and Thundermaverick, I'm on it
It's rough over there on loveshack. There really is a lot of miserable people. IMO, the second chances forum should even exist. All the advise is the same for each post...move on with your life!ThunderMaverick said:
Oh! The humanity!!!ThunderMaverick said:JESUS CHRIST ELOR!!! WHY ARE YOU LINKING TO SOSUAVE??!!
They found out where we're nesting!!! They're going to ban us all!!!!
NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!
*runs around with war room with head on fire*
Edit:
http://ww.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1590094#post1590094
Oh my god that thread is f**king funny!! Just endless replies on the first page from the guys of sosuave saying "amen!" and "I agree!" If they didn't know before...they do now. I'm literally laughing OUT LOUD!
Ah whatever!
we haven't had a flame war with another site in a long time.ThunderMaverick said:JESUS CHRIST ELOR!!! WHY ARE YOU LINKING TO SOSUAVE??!!
They found out where we're nesting!!! They're going to ban us all!!!!
NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!
*runs around with war room with head on fire*
Edit:
http://ww.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1590094#post1590094
Oh my god that thread is f**king funny!! Just endless replies on the first page from the guys of sosuave saying "amen!" and "I agree!" If they didn't know before...they do now. I'm literally laughing OUT LOUD!
Ah whatever!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think I'm banned. My posts are being deleted as we speak.Desdinova said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
A-FVCKING-MEN.Desdinova said:Quit grouping together and split up. respond to other posts besides those created by SSers. We're big confident burly men, we don't need to travel in packs amongst a bunch of women and feminine men
Aye aye...Desdinova said:Quit grouping together and split up. respond to other posts besides those created by SSers. We're big confident burly men, we don't need to travel in packs amongst a bunch of women and feminine men
I discovered that you have to pay a fee over there for a "Supporting Membership" which allows you to PM other members. Otherwise, you can't. So that won't work.
since when did that start?Magma said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
