You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I've been playing the role of AFC, but there is some beeotch named Muse or something over there that insists that Nighthawk (Mr.Collector) and I (Dagger Kockburn) are the same person. Elor, I will respond to your thread right now with some AFC logic, and you can hit me back with some knowledge.mr_elor said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
mr_elor said:Magma and Thundermaverick, I'm on it
It's rough over there on loveshack. There really is a lot of miserable people. IMO, the second chances forum should even exist. All the advise is the same for each post...move on with your life!ThunderMaverick said:
Oh! The humanity!!!ThunderMaverick said:JESUS CHRIST ELOR!!! WHY ARE YOU LINKING TO SOSUAVE??!!
They found out where we're nesting!!! They're going to ban us all!!!!
NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!
*runs around with war room with head on fire*
Edit:
http://ww.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1590094#post1590094
Oh my god that thread is f**king funny!! Just endless replies on the first page from the guys of sosuave saying "amen!" and "I agree!" If they didn't know before...they do now. I'm literally laughing OUT LOUD!
Ah whatever!
we haven't had a flame war with another site in a long time.ThunderMaverick said:JESUS CHRIST ELOR!!! WHY ARE YOU LINKING TO SOSUAVE??!!
They found out where we're nesting!!! They're going to ban us all!!!!
NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!
*runs around with war room with head on fire*
Edit:
http://ww.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1590094#post1590094
Oh my god that thread is f**king funny!! Just endless replies on the first page from the guys of sosuave saying "amen!" and "I agree!" If they didn't know before...they do now. I'm literally laughing OUT LOUD!
Ah whatever!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I think I'm banned. My posts are being deleted as we speak.Desdinova said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
A-FVCKING-MEN.Desdinova said:Quit grouping together and split up. respond to other posts besides those created by SSers. We're big confident burly men, we don't need to travel in packs amongst a bunch of women and feminine men
Aye aye...Desdinova said:Quit grouping together and split up. respond to other posts besides those created by SSers. We're big confident burly men, we don't need to travel in packs amongst a bunch of women and feminine men
I discovered that you have to pay a fee over there for a "Supporting Membership" which allows you to PM other members. Otherwise, you can't. So that won't work.
since when did that start?Magma said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
