bigjohnson
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In all fairness the men seemed to be about 50% or more reasonable, it was a minority of men and all the women that started shrieking like harpies.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nice post!!mr_elor said:
Welcome to the onslaught BladeSteel.Mr.Positive said:Nice post!!
FYI... There's already a Mr.Positive, and a Mr.P, over on loveshack. One seems to lack intelligence, and the other's a major chump.
So I signed up as BladeSteel.
That could work. You could even say that you are the woman who received it and that your boyfriend is upset about it. AAAACKKK!!! Now you guys are drawing me into the madness!!!:crazy:Bible_Belt said:They might like this one, too:
http://ww.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=140658
Let the record show I made an attempt to inject some much needed sanity to this effort before people dived in. It is in all likelihood a fools errand, and of course you cannot teach those unwilling to learn, but who's doing the learning here, LS members or SS members?WesCottII said:And look at yourselves, grown men planning "assualts" on another online forum. It's like the sharks Vs. The Jets (perhaps less gay...) Have you honestly nothing more productive to do with your time?
I'm all for helping others, but 1) They don't want it and 2) We've got enough guys that need help here.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Hell YES! :yes:KarmaSutra said:Victory, THIS is why I and other brothers must at least TRY to help.
Standing from the sidelines doesn't do a goddamned thing.
Neither does: "I told you so."
And Hell YES-----AGAIN!mr_elor said:Yep, for me it's paying back a debt of gratitude.
I was saved by one guy, posting a link to here. Now I might have been the only guy he saved (he got a lot of **** over there for posting it), but imagine the good that's come from saving just me.
My friends are better, and enjoy my company more.
Girls get the honour of meeting this awesome me, enriching their lives.
I will save a few guys I know along the way who can carry this all on.
Again, if I save just one poor guy, it'll been worth it.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yes, I am THE :cheer: "Notable Exception":cheer:Rollo Tomassi said:What amazes me is looking at the post counts of a LOT of the members who are the quickest responders. Sweet Mother Mary, they must average 8,000 posts! With the notable exception of FRANCISCO, most members here don't post even half as much. When do they find time to do anything else?.
brag brag, while you can ...:crazy:Francisco d'Anconia said:Yes, I am THE :cheer: "Notable Exception":cheer:
I believe the plural of the possesive form of guy is guys'. Anyway this is the biggest crock of sh1t iqqi. I went over to LS and read and posted some and so far I haven't seen anyone flame bait there as bad as you do here. I was actually just thinking about that. I was expecting people to be really bad over there an so far I haven't seen anything that holds a candle to what you do on here.iqqi said:If you think Rogue and Woogle and others aren't also sosuave members, there is a chance you are deluded. I bet a few sosuavers lead double forum lives.
As far as me posting over there, the main difference would be that I wouldn't be flamed every time I said something because there are tons of more women over there, so they aren't as "threatening". Other than that, my advice would echo much of your guyses, without the "wow iqqi said something smart" follow ups. Haha. I said Guyses. Is there a correct way to spell that?
Oh, I am not over there because I don't have love shacky issues. I like it here. I like MEN.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
i actually used to visit over there, but it was very boring there.ketostix said:I was just wondering when someone from here would go over there and post counter to the prevailing wisdom there as a woman to throw off suspicion. You know, kind of how we ocassionally have women posting as men here.
Yeah penkitten could do that and she wouldn't even be pretending to be a woman lol.
:cuss:I look again and the thread was deleted and my account banned.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.