bigjohnson
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In all fairness the men seemed to be about 50% or more reasonable, it was a minority of men and all the women that started shrieking like harpies.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Nice post!!mr_elor said:
Welcome to the onslaught BladeSteel.Mr.Positive said:Nice post!!
FYI... There's already a Mr.Positive, and a Mr.P, over on loveshack. One seems to lack intelligence, and the other's a major chump.
So I signed up as BladeSteel.
That could work. You could even say that you are the woman who received it and that your boyfriend is upset about it. AAAACKKK!!! Now you guys are drawing me into the madness!!!:crazy:Bible_Belt said:They might like this one, too:
http://ww.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=140658
Let the record show I made an attempt to inject some much needed sanity to this effort before people dived in. It is in all likelihood a fools errand, and of course you cannot teach those unwilling to learn, but who's doing the learning here, LS members or SS members?WesCottII said:And look at yourselves, grown men planning "assualts" on another online forum. It's like the sharks Vs. The Jets (perhaps less gay...) Have you honestly nothing more productive to do with your time?
I'm all for helping others, but 1) They don't want it and 2) We've got enough guys that need help here.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Hell YES! :yes:KarmaSutra said:Victory, THIS is why I and other brothers must at least TRY to help.
Standing from the sidelines doesn't do a goddamned thing.
Neither does: "I told you so."
And Hell YES-----AGAIN!mr_elor said:Yep, for me it's paying back a debt of gratitude.
I was saved by one guy, posting a link to here. Now I might have been the only guy he saved (he got a lot of **** over there for posting it), but imagine the good that's come from saving just me.
My friends are better, and enjoy my company more.
Girls get the honour of meeting this awesome me, enriching their lives.
I will save a few guys I know along the way who can carry this all on.
Again, if I save just one poor guy, it'll been worth it.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yes, I am THE :cheer: "Notable Exception":cheer:Rollo Tomassi said:What amazes me is looking at the post counts of a LOT of the members who are the quickest responders. Sweet Mother Mary, they must average 8,000 posts! With the notable exception of FRANCISCO, most members here don't post even half as much. When do they find time to do anything else?.
brag brag, while you can ...:crazy:Francisco d'Anconia said:Yes, I am THE :cheer: "Notable Exception":cheer:
I believe the plural of the possesive form of guy is guys'. Anyway this is the biggest crock of sh1t iqqi. I went over to LS and read and posted some and so far I haven't seen anyone flame bait there as bad as you do here. I was actually just thinking about that. I was expecting people to be really bad over there an so far I haven't seen anything that holds a candle to what you do on here.iqqi said:If you think Rogue and Woogle and others aren't also sosuave members, there is a chance you are deluded. I bet a few sosuavers lead double forum lives.
As far as me posting over there, the main difference would be that I wouldn't be flamed every time I said something because there are tons of more women over there, so they aren't as "threatening". Other than that, my advice would echo much of your guyses, without the "wow iqqi said something smart" follow ups. Haha. I said Guyses. Is there a correct way to spell that?
Oh, I am not over there because I don't have love shacky issues. I like it here. I like MEN.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
i actually used to visit over there, but it was very boring there.ketostix said:I was just wondering when someone from here would go over there and post counter to the prevailing wisdom there as a woman to throw off suspicion. You know, kind of how we ocassionally have women posting as men here.
Yeah penkitten could do that and she wouldn't even be pretending to be a woman lol.
:cuss:I look again and the thread was deleted and my account banned.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.