bigjohnson
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In all fairness the men seemed to be about 50% or more reasonable, it was a minority of men and all the women that started shrieking like harpies.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nice post!!mr_elor said:
Welcome to the onslaught BladeSteel.Mr.Positive said:Nice post!!
FYI... There's already a Mr.Positive, and a Mr.P, over on loveshack. One seems to lack intelligence, and the other's a major chump.
So I signed up as BladeSteel.
That could work. You could even say that you are the woman who received it and that your boyfriend is upset about it. AAAACKKK!!! Now you guys are drawing me into the madness!!!:crazy:Bible_Belt said:They might like this one, too:
http://ww.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=140658
Let the record show I made an attempt to inject some much needed sanity to this effort before people dived in. It is in all likelihood a fools errand, and of course you cannot teach those unwilling to learn, but who's doing the learning here, LS members or SS members?WesCottII said:And look at yourselves, grown men planning "assualts" on another online forum. It's like the sharks Vs. The Jets (perhaps less gay...) Have you honestly nothing more productive to do with your time?
I'm all for helping others, but 1) They don't want it and 2) We've got enough guys that need help here.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Hell YES! :yes:KarmaSutra said:Victory, THIS is why I and other brothers must at least TRY to help.
Standing from the sidelines doesn't do a goddamned thing.
Neither does: "I told you so."
And Hell YES-----AGAIN!mr_elor said:Yep, for me it's paying back a debt of gratitude.
I was saved by one guy, posting a link to here. Now I might have been the only guy he saved (he got a lot of **** over there for posting it), but imagine the good that's come from saving just me.
My friends are better, and enjoy my company more.
Girls get the honour of meeting this awesome me, enriching their lives.
I will save a few guys I know along the way who can carry this all on.
Again, if I save just one poor guy, it'll been worth it.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yes, I am THE :cheer: "Notable Exception":cheer:Rollo Tomassi said:What amazes me is looking at the post counts of a LOT of the members who are the quickest responders. Sweet Mother Mary, they must average 8,000 posts! With the notable exception of FRANCISCO, most members here don't post even half as much. When do they find time to do anything else?.
brag brag, while you can ...:crazy:Francisco d'Anconia said:Yes, I am THE :cheer: "Notable Exception":cheer:
I believe the plural of the possesive form of guy is guys'. Anyway this is the biggest crock of sh1t iqqi. I went over to LS and read and posted some and so far I haven't seen anyone flame bait there as bad as you do here. I was actually just thinking about that. I was expecting people to be really bad over there an so far I haven't seen anything that holds a candle to what you do on here.iqqi said:If you think Rogue and Woogle and others aren't also sosuave members, there is a chance you are deluded. I bet a few sosuavers lead double forum lives.
As far as me posting over there, the main difference would be that I wouldn't be flamed every time I said something because there are tons of more women over there, so they aren't as "threatening". Other than that, my advice would echo much of your guyses, without the "wow iqqi said something smart" follow ups. Haha. I said Guyses. Is there a correct way to spell that?
Oh, I am not over there because I don't have love shacky issues. I like it here. I like MEN.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i actually used to visit over there, but it was very boring there.ketostix said:I was just wondering when someone from here would go over there and post counter to the prevailing wisdom there as a woman to throw off suspicion. You know, kind of how we ocassionally have women posting as men here.
Yeah penkitten could do that and she wouldn't even be pretending to be a woman lol.
:cuss:I look again and the thread was deleted and my account banned.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.