"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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congratulations! may you wake each day with a full heart and a happy home!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Boilermaker said:
he spends a lifetime bashing posters who have lots of "green dots" (although it's not the posters, but the readers who are giving them those green dots)
I think they're a distraction. Instead of reading every single one of my posts why don't you put me on ignore? This way you can sashay yourself to Hulk green bliss.

and then every once in a while he comes back and feels the need to remind us that he was the most rep'ped poster in sosuave before he disabled reputation.
I made that reference one time to illustrate how idiotic and superficial the rep-laden dependency you new guys have.

I want to see them green dots. That's an easy indicator of who I should ignore and who I should take seriously. And there's nothing immoral or unethical about showing people that you are admired and respected.
Great. That's your choice. I don't give a good-goddamn.

I mean seriously, why are we even coming back here and sharing our opinions? Don't give me that cheesy "helping my fellow brothers
prosper in their journeys" argument.
Pizza is cheesy too. That's what makes it great.

We feel good about ourselves, we feel good about being appreciated and respected. And there's nothing wrong with that.
But it makes me sick to see how some of us are so viciously attacking this basic idea, while needing the attention more than anyone else.
At what point does one get when it becomes analingus?
 

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5string said:
Great news Karma!

May I please at least come to the reception and drink your Scotch?
Thanks to you and everyone else who chimed in without bullsh!t.

As I said, we're enjoying our engagement for as long as it takes. Her girlfriends immediately jump to: "WHAT'S THE DATE!", to which HER reply is: "We'll take the next step when we're both ready."

Her awesomeness shines through.

When the day has been determined (if ever) cigars and Scotch will be readily available to partake.
 

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Hmm some people just don't learn from their mistakes apparently. I wish you luck and happiness Karma, but do not see this ending well considering your dependency on female validation to assess your self-worth. (Before you get defensive look at your posting history since your divorce, it's very telling)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DJ Logic said:
Hmm some people just don't learn from their mistakes apparently. I wish you luck and happiness Karma, but do not see this ending well considering your dependency on female validation to assess your self-worth. (Before you get defensive look at your posting history since your divorce, it's very telling)
First marriages are labeled starter marriages for a reason.

I'm engaged because I have learned from my mistakes. The Mrs.-to-be is as close to a supportive, caring, gorgeous, successful mate as I could've hoped.

You only find ones like this with experience.
 

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Man guys lighten up. The guy just got engaged and some of you are trying to lay down your pov on everything. Just wish him and his future bride well and leave it at that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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f283000 said:
Why risk ruining all that with marriage?
Nothing worth gaining's without risk.

Marriage to a wonderful companion isn't the end of the world. Being a lonely, spiteful dude who lives on them internets is.

Unfortunately there are far too many of the latter.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
Nothing worth gaining's without risk.

Marriage to a wonderful companion isn't the end of the world. Being a lonely, spiteful dude who lives on them internets is.

Unfortunately there are far too many of the latter.
*grabs popcorn*
 

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KarmaSutra said:
Nothing worth gaining's without risk.

Marriage to a wonderful companion isn't the end of the world. Being a lonely, spiteful dude who lives on them internets is.

Unfortunately there are far too many of the latter.
Woah, that was a jab at us, wasn't it; The people on the interwebz. Sounds like you're not getting the response you wanted, so you're deflecting it on us.

I understand if your own personal values have changed after years of experience, but you can't expect us to all just congratulate you on something like this, a choice that screws most men over for the rest of their lives.

More than half of marriages nowadays end in divorce, most of them initiated by women. I know you found a great one and all, but you never answered my question.

What can you get out of a personal union through marriage that you can't get not married?
 

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ThunderMaverick said:
Woah, that was a jab at us, wasn't it
Not unless you believe yourself to be said lonely, spiteful douche.

The people on the interwebz. Sounds like you're not getting the response you wanted, so you're deflecting it on us.
I don't give a flying fvck about a random typed response on a forum. I'm not dependent on the whim of anyone's opinion but my own and those I trust.

Those I trust are within earshot.

I understand if your own personal values have changed after years of experience, but you can't expect us to all just congratulate you on something like this, a choice that screws most men over for the rest of their lives.
I don't care if any of you congratulate me, hate me, or if you choke on c0ck on a regular basis.

The choice I made is mine to own. I'm not parlaying responsibility for my life on what you people think I should do or think.

More than half of marriages nowadays end in divorce, most of them initiated by women. I know you found a great one and all, but you never answered my question.
So? Marriages fall apart because one or both have lost the drive to keep each other mentally and physically interested in each other.

Divorce is a product of laziness. I know.


What can you get out of a personal union through marriage that you can't get not married?
Not a thing.

My own idea of a Love Lease and Marriage have the exact principle to apply as a couple. The legal ramifications won't have any burden on our decisions as life-mates. You know why?

WE FVCKING COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER ABOUT EVERY MAJOR DECISION THAT WILL IMPACT OUR LIVES.

Your basing your ASSumptions on a persona I have. It's one aspect of my personality you see here. I wear various facades and societal masks depending on the situation.

You do too. We all do. I admit mine.

Don't pretend any of you know who I am. I've hung out with a few of the Brothers here a couple of times and they've gotten to know who I am.

That's what matters.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You made the right decision marrying this woman, Karma. She must be super amazing to put up with you lol
 

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Jitterbug said:
She must be super amazing to put up with you lol

A-motherfvckin'-men.

She is. I'm not the easiest guy in the world to get close to. She taught me how important it is to let dumbsh!t go, instead of harboring it to fester in my brain.

Seriously, I only wish for the rest of you guys to find a mate as compatible with you as I have. One who compliments your strengths and helps you grow above your weak points.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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